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Self-Motivation | SkillsYouNeed

Self-motivation is, in its simplest form, the force that drives you to do things. 

Self-motivation is far from being a simple topic; there are many books, web-pages and articles that attempt to explain self-motivation and some top academics have dedicated their life’s work to trying to understand, model and develop motivation theory.

Self-motivation is a key life skill and something that everybody interested in personal development should think carefully about. It is also a key part of emotional intelligence, one of the three areas of personal skills that are integral to the concept.

What is Motivation?

Motivation is what pushes us to achieve our goals, feel more fulfilled and improve overall quality of life.

Daniel Goleman, the author of several seminal books on Emotional Intelligence, identified four elements that make up motivation:

  • Personal drive to achieve, the desire to improve or to meet certain standards;
  • Commitment to personal or organisational goals;
  • Initiative, which he defined as ‘readiness to act on opportunities’; and
  • Optimism, the ability to keep going and pursue goals in the face of setbacks.

There are many advantages to self-motivation. People who are self-motivated, for example, tend to be more organised, have good time management skills and more self-esteem and confidence.

Understanding and developing your self-motivation can help you to take control of many other aspects of your life.

What is Your Motive?

Fundamental to self-motivation is understanding what motivates you to do things.

This may sound straightforward but sometimes your motivation is hidden from your consciousness – your own personal hidden agenda.  Your motivation may well change from hour-to-hour, day-to-day and through life.  As this happens your needs, wants and goals change and evolve.

There are two main types of motivation: ‘intrinsic’ and ‘extrinsic’ motivation.

In their simplest form you can think about these two types of motivation as:

  • Intrinsic = love, because we want to.
  • Extrinsic = money, because we have to.

A more detailed definition is:

  • Intrinsic: To perform an action or task based on the expected or perceived satisfaction of performing the action or task.  Intrinsic motivators include having fun, being interested and personal challenge.
  • Extrinsic: To perform an action or task in order to attain some sort of reward, including money, power and good marks or grades.

Different people are motivated by different things and at different times in their lives.  The same task may have more intrinsic motivators at certain times and more extrinsic motivators at others, most tasks have a combination of the two types of motivation.


John works because he has to pay his mortgage and feed himself and his family. He gets no satisfaction from his job and there is no chance of promotion. John’s motivators are purely extrinsic.

Sally works because she loves what she does, she gets enormous satisfaction and self-fulfilment from her work.  Sally has enough money put away that she does not need to work, she owns her house outright and can afford to buy what she wants when she wants it.  Sally’s motivators are purely intrinsic.

Clearly Sally and John are at different ends of the spectrum when it comes to self-motivation. Most people, however, fall somewhere in the middle.

Most people do have to work in order to earn money, but at the same time they also find their day-to-day work life rewarding or satisfying in other intrinsic ways — job satisfaction and the chance to socialise with colleagues, for example.

See our page: Work-Life Balance for more on this.

We all have a tendency to work better when we love what we are doing.

It’s easier to get out of bed in the morning, we are happier in our work, and happier in general.

Research shows that this is particularly important when we’re under stress. It’s much easier to cope with stress and long hours if we generally enjoy the work.

When thinking about what motivates you to perform a certain task, think about both intrinsic and extrinsic motivators – if you have trouble getting motivated to perform specific tasks it may be useful to write them down and list the motivators for each.

The Importance of Obligation

What about if a task has neither intrinsic nor extrinsic motivators?

The obvious conclusion is that we are unlikely to do it, because it will be pointless.

We all know it doesn’t always work like that. There is a further issue: feelings of obligation.

Obligation motivators are not necessarily strictly intrinsic or extrinsic but can still be very powerful. Obligation comes from our personal ethics and sense of duty, what is right and what is wrong.

You may feel obliged to go to a party because you were invited by somebody you know – there will be no obvious extrinsic or intrinsic benefit to you attending but you may worry if you don’t go.  You are more likely to enjoy the party you feel obliged to attend if you go with a positive and open attitude – this way you have also added an intrinsic motivator, fun and enjoyment.

Skills Involved in Self-Motivation

There are a number of skills involved in self-motivation.

These include:

Those who are motivated also find it much easier to motivate others. This can be particularly important in leadership roles.

See our page on Motivation Skills for more.

Keep Motivated

Finally, it is important to keep track of what you want to achieve and stay motivated to do so.  To keep your motivation levels up try to:

Learn and Acquire Knowledge

Read, study and talk to people – knowledge and information are key for feeding your mind and keeping you curious and motivated. See our pages What is Learning?, Lifelong Learning and our section: Study Skills for some tips on how to make your learning more effective.

Keep the Company of Enthusiastic People

Try to avoid negative people and seek out positive, well-motivated people. It is a lot easier to be motivated if the people around you are.

Keep Positive

Keep a positive attitude, see problems and set-backs as learning opportunities. For more about this, see our pages on Mindsets and Positive Thinking.

Know Your Strengths and Weaknesses

Work on ironing out your weaknesses and building on your strengths.

Do It

Try not to procrastinate, assess the risks but keep working towards your goals. See our pages Time Management and Minimising Distractions for more.

Get Help and Help Others

Don’t be afraid to ask other for help and don’t hold back if you can help them. Seeing other people succeed will help to motivate you to do the same.

Further Reading from Skills You Need

The Skills You Need Guide to Personal Development

Learn how to set yourself effective personal goals and find the motivation you need to achieve them. This is the essence of personal development, a set of skills designed to help you reach your full potential, at work, in study and in your personal life.

Our eBook is ideal for anyone who wants to improve their skills and learning potential, and it is full of easy-to-follow, practical information.

Motivation. How to motivate yourself?

Do you dream of changing your life, but don’t know how to motivate yourself to success?

Motivation is an inner emotional state which stimulates a person to action.

Here, I would like to share with you several smart tips that have helped so many people.

Remember, motivation is the key component of your future success.

If you learn to motivate yourself daily, success will follow your every activity, every step, every action!

  • Never let in negative thoughts, get rid of them under any circumstances.

    Don’t forget that thoughts are material and if you keep thinking of evil, if you visualize it brightly and vividly, it can happen to you.

  • Promise yourself an early rise every morning, be it weekend or not.

    The best motivation begins in the morning!

    Trust me, once you start getting up early, you will have enough time for everything.

    Even if there’s no need for haste or urgent business, wake up early, devote this time to yourself and your development, benefit from an exciting and useful reading…

    People have knowingly said, “An early bird catches the worm”.

  • Motivate yourself to victory!

    Every time, every day and every minute motivate yourself to victory, become more goal-oriented and remember: in every situation we always have two options – to win or to lose.

    Right after waking up when you are still in bed, set your mind positively for the whole day.

    Say, “Today I will excel myself! Today will be better than yesterday!

    Today small victories await me!”

    Believe me, now you will be full of positive and resourceful energy, stay strong and confident in both your attitude and actions during the whole day.

    Nothing and nobody will hinder you or break your plans! 🙂

  • Motivate yourself to positive attitude and high spirits.

    Try to think positively in every situation.

    Keep in mind that people are attracted to cheerful optimists, and not whiners.

    Quite a number of readers can start throwing eggs at me saying, “What if someone has really gone through a difficult and uneasy situation? What can be positive about that?”

    And I will calmly respond, “Dears, everything happening to you is your experience, invaluable experience!

    But for these “difficult and uneasy” situations you would have been a loser, a weak person with no guts.

    All these perturbations make you more purposeful and stronger”.

  • Motivate yourself to assistance!

    Friends, never deny assistance to those who need it.

    Besides doing good to these people, you get positive emotions and gratitude for your effort.

    Isn’t it meaningful?

    When you improve other people’s lives, you automatically improve yours. Never forget it!

  • Your doubts can destroy your motivation!

    A lot of people can’t keep motivated for a long time even despite their steady life progress. Their lack of self-confidence impedes them. They always wonder whether they do it right and whether they follow the right way.

    Remember, self-confidence is a very important quality for every person and success is unattainable without it. Here is a very simple piece of advice that will improve your self-esteem: always keep your promises. It is the ability to stand by your word given, for example, to your friend that will teach you to keep a promise given to yourself.

    Later on, you’ll learn to trust yourself when setting your mind to a “successful future”.

    And it will keep up your motivation!

  • Let yourself feel the advancement on your way to a cherished goal!

    Our body is a smart energy-saving machine, so if you don’t see any progress or, moreover, don’t believe that your activity will ever bring it, your motivation becomes too hard to keep up; it weakens and contradicts your basic energy-preserving principles.

    To put it simpler, it can lead to idleness.

    Well, you can contradict anything, you can fight nature, but it is way better to cooperate with it.

  • Get rid of alternatives. And motivate yourself!

    I think that, whenever there is a choice, a 5 a.m. wake-up can be a challenge for anyone.

    Well, to luxuriate a bit longer in bed or to get up… But a barrel of ice-cold water poured on you at 5:05 will make you jump out of bed like a soldier – swiftly, easily and without lingering.

    Another great way of self-motivation is, for example, a promise to your colleagues that you will shave off your hair and eat it with mayo in case you fail to succeed.

  • Evaluate your progress. And motivate yourself!

    We always have to provide our motivation with evidence that our business is successful and develops daily.

    Remember, it is the progress, and not the process that must be evaluated.

    For instance, you read 30 pages of George Clason’s useful book “The richest man in Babylon”.

    It is the process.

    Then you answer 30 questions on these 30 pages. It is the progress!

  • Be your own competitor. And motivate yourself!

    Mikhail Baryshnikov once said, “I don’t try to dance better than others.

    I only try to dance better than myself”.

    This is a truly good quote.

    If you constantly compare yourself to others, it can soon demotivate you.

    Even, when full of enthusiasm and will, you commence striding along a meandering way to your longed-for dream, a constant comparison of your success to that of others will soon lower your energy and diminish your desire to pursue for your goal.

    Stop doing it!

    Quit!Please realize that every individual has his specific life, does his unique job and builds his unique relationships.

    This cannot be compared! When you compete with others, it looks ridiculous, silly and senseless.  

    A cyclist and a soccer player can’t meet on the same track, can they?

    The most challenging competitor, whom you must defeat every day little by little, is you. Overpower and overcome yourself daily!

  • Each of us creates his own world, and your final creation totally depends on you. The most important thing, my dear readers, is to stay calm, not to lose heart and bear in mind:

    Our life depends exclusively on us and it’s our responsibility to make it happy.

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    Motivation — Get motivated each day

    is the ability to do something without the help or influence of anybody else

    To all the mothers out there….

    Whoever said it takes about six weeks to get back to normal after you’ve had a baby . . . doesn’t know that once you’re a mother, normal is history.

    Whoever said you learn how to be a mother by instinct . . . never took a three-year-old shopping.

    Whoever said being a mother is boring . . . never rode in a car driven by a teenager with a driver’s permit.

    Whoever said if you’re a «good» mother, your child will «turn out good»… thinks a child comes with directions and a guarantee.

    Whoever said «good» mothers never raise their voices . . . never came out the back door just in time to see her child hit a golf ball through the neighbor’s kitchen window.

    Whoever said you don’t need an education to be a mother . . . never helped a fourth grader with his math.

    Whoever said you can’t love the fifth child as much as you love the first. . . doesn’t have five children.

    Whoever said a mother can find all the answers to her child-rearing questions in the books . . . never had a child stuff beans up his nose.

    Whoever said the hardest part of being a mother is labor and delivery . . . never watched her «baby» get on the bus for the first day of kindergarten.

    Whoever said a mother can do her job with her eyes closed and one hand tied behind her back . . never organized seven giggling Brownies to sell cookies.

    Whoever said a mother can stop worrying after her child gets married… doesn’t know that marriage adds a new son or daughter-in-law to a mother’s heartstrings.

    Whoever said a mother’s job is done when her last child leaves home… never had grandchildren.

    Whoever said your mother knows you love her, so you don’t need to tell her . . . isn’t a mother.

    Too Sweet Not to Share

    She is 92 years old, petite, well poised, and proud. She is fully dressed each morning by eight o’clock, with her hair fashionably coifed, and her makeup perfectly applied, in spite of the fact she is legally blind.

    Today she has moved to a nursing home. Her husband of 70 years recently passed away, making this move necessary.

    After many hours of waiting patiently in the lobby of the nursing home, where I am employed, she smiled sweetly when told her room was ready. As she maneuvered her walker to the elevator, I provided a visual description of her tiny room, including the eyelet curtains that had been hung on her window.

    «I love it,» she stated with the enthusiasm of an eight-year-old having just been presented with a new puppy.

    «Mrs. Jones, you haven’t seen the room…just wait,» I said.

    Then she spoke these words that I will never forget:

    «That does not have anything to do with it,» she gently replied. «Happiness is something you decide on ahead of time. Whether I like my room or not, does not depend on how the furniture is arranged. It is how I arrange my mind. I have already decided to love it.»

    It is a decision I make every morning when I wake up. I have a choice. I can spend the day in bed recounting the difficulty I have with the parts of my body that no longer work, or I can get out of bed and be thankful for the ones that do work. Each day is a gift, and as long as my eyes open, I will focus on the new day and all of the happy memories I have stored away…just for this time in my life.

    Old age is like a bank account. You withdraw from what you have already put in.

    Some things I believe

    I believe that my background and circumstances may have influenced who I am, but I’m responsible for who I’ve become.

    I believe that no matter how good a friend is, they’re going to hurt me every once in a while and I must forgive them for that.

    I believe that just because someone doesn’t love me the way I want them to doesn’t mean they don’t love me with all they have.

    I believe that true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love.

    I believe that it’s taking me a long time to become the person I want to be.

    I believe that I should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time I see them or they see me.

    I believe that I can keep going, long after I can’t.

    I believe that I am responsible for what I do, no matter how I feel.

    I believe that either I control my attitude or it controls me.

    I believe that heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences.

    I believe that money is a lousy way of keeping score.

    I believe that my best friend and I can do anything or nothing and have the best time.

    I believe that sometimes the people I expect to kick me when I’m down, may be the ones to help me get back up.

    I believe that sometimes when I’m angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn’t give me the right to be cruel.

    I believe that maturity has more to do with what types of experiences I’ve had and what I’ve learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays I’ve celebrated.

    I believe that it isn’t always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes I have to forgive myself.

    I believe that no matter how bad my heart is broken the world doesn’t stop for my grief.

    I believe that just because two people argue, it doesn’t mean they don’t love each other. And just because they don’t argue, it doesn’t mean they do.

    I believe that two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.

    I believe that my life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don’t even know me.

    I believe that even when I think I have no more to give, when a friend cries out to me I will find the strength to help.

    I believe that credentials on the wall do not necessarity make me or you a more deserving individual than one without them.

    Because We All Need to Laugh Daily

    Below are actual headlines from 2002

    Crack Found on Governor’s Daughter

    Something Went Wrong in Jet Crash, Expert Says

    Police Begin Campaign to Run Down Jaywalkers

    Iraqi Head Seeks Arms

    Is There a Ring of Debris around Uranus?

    Prostitutes Appeal to Pope

    Panda Mating Fails; Veterinarian Take Over

    Teacher Strikes Idle Kids

    Miners Refuse to Work after Death

    Juvenile Court to Try Shooting Defendant

    War Dims Hope for Peace

    If Strike Isn’t Settled Quickly, It May Last Awhile

    Cold Wave Linked to Temperatures

    Enfield (London) Couple Slain; Police Suspect Homicide

    Typhoon Rips Through Cemetery; Hundreds Dead

    Man Struck By Lightning Faces Battery Charge

    New Study of Obesity Looks for Larger Test Group

    Astronaut Takes Blame for Gas in Spacecraft

    Kids Make Nutritious Snacks

    Chef Throws His Heart into Helping Feed Needy

    Local High School Dropouts Cut in Half

    Hospitals are Sued by 7 Foot Doctors

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    How to Motivate Yourself – Life Optimizer

    People who are unable to motivate themselves must be content with mediocrity, no matter how impressive their other talents.
    Andrew Carnegie

    If you want to excel in life, self motivation is essential. You must know how to motivate yourself. You must be able to keep your spirit high no matter how discouraging a situation is. That’s the only way to get the power you need to overcome difficulties. Those who are discouraged in difficult times are certain to lose even before the battle is over.

    The question is: how do you motivate yourself? Here are several tips I’ve found to be effective to build self motivation:

    1. Have a cause

    I can’t think of a more powerful source of motivation than a cause you care about. Such cause can inspire you to give your best even in the face of difficulties. It can make you do the seemingly impossible things.

    While other causes could inspire you temporarily, a cause that matters to you can inspire you indefinitely. It’s a spring of motivation that will never dry. Whenever you think that you run out of motivation,  you can always come to your cause to get a fresh dose of motivation.

    2. Have a dream. A big dream.

    Only as high as I reach can I grow, only as far as I seek can I go, only as deep as I look can I see, only as much as I dream can I be.
    Karen Ravn

    Your cause is a powerful source of motivation but it’s still abstract in nature. You need to make it concrete in the form of a dream. Imagine how the world will be in the future. Imagine how people will live and work.

    Having a dream is important because it’s difficult to be motivated if you don’t have anything to shoot for. Just think about people who play basketball. Will they be motivated to play if there is no basket to aim at? I don’t think so. They need a goal. You need a goal. That’s what your dream is for.

    But just having a dream is insufficient. Your dream must be big enough to inspire you. It must be realistic but challenging. It must stretch your ability beyond your comfort zone.

    3. Be hungry

    Wanting something is not enough. You must hunger for it. Your motivation must be absolutely compelling in order to overcome the obstacles that will invariably come your way.
    Les Brown

    To be truly motivated, you need to have hunger and not just desire. Having mere desire won’t take you through difficult times since you don’t want things badly enough. In many cases, hunger makes the difference between the best performers and the mediocre ones.

    How can you have hunger? Your cause and your dream play a big role here. If you have a cause you care about and a big dream related to it, you should have the hunger inside of you. If you think that you are losing hunger, all you need to do is to connect again to your cause and dream. Let them inspire you and bring the hunger back.

    4. Run your own race

    I do not try to dance better than anyone else. I only try to dance better than myself.
    Mikhail Baryshnikov

    Comparing yourself with others is an effective way to demotivate yourself. Even if you start with enthusiasm, you will soon lose your energy when you compare yourself with others.

    Don’t let that happen to you. You have your own race so how other people perform is irrelevant. Comparing yourself with others is like comparing the performance of a swimmer with a runner using the same time standard. They are different so how can you compare one with the other?

    The only competitor you have is yourself. The only one you need to beat is you. Have you become the best you can be?

    5. Take one more step

    Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.
    Winston Churchill

    When you meet obstacles along the way, there could be the tendency to quit. You may think that it’s too difficult to move on. You may think that your dream is impossible to achieve. But this is where you can see the difference between winners and losers. Though both of them face the same difficulties, there is one thing that makes the winners different: the courage to continue.

    In difficult situations, just focus on taking one more step forward. Don’t think about how to complete the race. Don’t think about how many more obstacles are waiting for you. Just focus on taking the next step.

    6. Let go of the past

    Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could.
    Ralph Waldo Emerson

    Believe it or not, one of the best demotivators is your past. Your past can drag you down before you realize it. Your past can give you a heavy burden on your shoulders.

    The good news is it’s a burden you don’t have to carry. Take it off your shoulder and leave it. You might make mistakes in the past. You might disappoint others with what you did. But it’s over. It’s already in the past and there’s nothing you can do about it.

    Today is a new day and you have the chance to start again. No matter how bad your past might be, you still have a bright future ahead waiting for you. Just don’t let the burden of the past stop you.


    Apply these tips and motivate yourself. Don’t settle for mediocrity. Let your self motivation take you to excellence.

    This article is part of October 2008 theme: Winning Attitude

    What Is Self Motivation

    Self motivation, you either have it or you don’t, right? What if I were to tell you that isn’t the case. I thought I didn’t have the motivation to write this article today, but it needed to be done, so I got up at 5:00 am and wrote. This was a little bit of self motivation. There was nobody there to kick me out of bed, make the coffee and open up my laptop. It was all me, brag….

    But this doesn’t mean I can do it every day. Or does it?

    What is self motivation?

    Self motivation is a force that makes you do stuff. It’s a life skill, and if you care about your mental and physical well being at all, you should spend a little time thinking about how to keep up your self motivation. With that being said, here are some things you’ll learn with this article:

    • Why it’s important to find your hidden agenda
    • The two types of motivation
    • How to set a goal for your motivation
    • The importance of flexibility

    Self motivation is a ‘life skill,’ which means you’re not necessarily born with the ability to be Mr. (or Mrs.) Motivated every day. It is something to be built upon and nourished throughout your whole life

    There are huge benefits to finding your self motivation sweet spot, as “people with self motivation tend to be more organized, with good time management skills and have more self-esteem and confidence.” Harnessing your ability for self motivation will give you all of these things, and then some.

    Your hidden agenda

    Ask yourself, what is my motivation? Every time you feel the need to do something there is a motive behind it—a hidden agenda to which you may not be fully aware. It is important to find your motive and why something is important to you.

    Why did I get up at 5am to write this article? Because I’m on a family holiday, and in about 2 hours there will be two 18-month-old boys running riot around our cottage. This is the only quiet time in the day, and it means I don’t miss out on spending any time with my family.

    This is my motive—my hidden agenda.

    Types of motivation

    To find out your motive you need to know the two main types of motivation.

    • Intrinsic – performing a task for the satisfaction of doing it. This is usually something fun and personally challenging, which interests you. This motivator is all about love. 
    • Extrinsic – performing a task for a reward. Whether that is money, fame, power or praise.

    I know things aren’t always this black and white, and your motivation will change from day to day. But understanding the different types of motivation will take you a step closer to finding out why you want to be motivated in the first place.

    For example, my reason behind getting up at 5:00 am is intrinsic (I’m doing it to spend more time with my family), although there are extrinsic motivators in there too, because if I don’t write the article and submit it on time, I don’t get paid.

    Tip – do you ever feel like a task is pointless? Take a second to think about your motivation. What are your intrinsic or extrinsic motivations for completing the task?

    Write them down and think about why you are doing it. This will help you overcome the feeling of something being pointless. It will help reboot the system if you’re working on a passion project, as you remind yourself why you started doing it in the first place.

    What is your goal?

    Self-motivation is a glorious cycle of boosting self-confidence and self-esteem. Meaning, the more goal orientated you are, the more self motivation you have, which in turn builds self-esteem and confidence. This then gives the oomph to your self-motivation to keep going.

    So where does it all begin, and how can you jump on this merry-go-round?

    You need to have a goal.

    This sounds incredibly simple, and it is, if you already have one. Personal goals give you both short-term and long-term motivation, whether it’s:

    • Writing a book
    • Learning to play the guitar
    • Starting an online business
    • Building your social media following

    All of these things need self motivation to get the cogs turning. Having a goal in place gives you focus. It helps you to zone in on what skills you need to acquire, the things you need to learn, how to manage your time and best use your resources.

    Having goals in place also shows you how much you’ve progressed. Recording your progression will keep you motivated and gives a clear record of how far you’ve come, whether it’s:

    • Writing 5,000 words of your novel
    • Learning 3 chords on the guitar
    • Learning 10 phrases in a new language

    Let life happen

    Having goals in place is great, but restricting freedom isn’t. When thinking about where you want to go in life, and how to get there, remember life happens.  Have an idea of where you want to be in ten years? Great, and by all means start paving the path to get there. But, don’t restrict yourself too much.

    There are many different types of life goals to have, whether it’s:

    • Career orientated
    • Financial
    • Academic
    • Family orientated
    • Your physical appearance
    • Health improvements

    These are all super important goals to have in order to keep improving, and moving forward. So implementing a long-term plan is great, but you also need to have short-term goals, or sub-goals.

    Having short-term goals to tick off along the way keeps you flexible and changeable, whilst remaining focused on the bigger picture. They’re important as they:

    • Give you specific time frames
    • Keep your priorities in order
    • Keep you present and focused
    • Allow you small successes along the way

    Start from the big picture goal and work backwards, setting yourself smaller, immediately achievable goals along the way. This will help keep you focused and motivated to complete the bigger task.

    Whether you already have a life goal in place, or are looking to find one, optimizing your self motivation practices are imperative to success. Find that self motivation and start asking yourself the hard questions. By figuring out your agenda and setting yourself both short and long-term goals you are preparing yourself to succeed, harnessing your brainpower and productivity to live the best life you can.

    Self Motivation Techniques | Personal Development

    In the following you can find
    some excellent motivation techniques that will let you know how to
    motivate yourself in an effective way.

    the following you can find some excellent motivation techniques that
    will let you know how to motivate yourself in an effective way. First
    of all I think it is important to differentiate between extrinsic
    motivation (which comes from the environment of an individual, such as
    the desire to be appreciated or recognized from others and the
    motivational support from another person) and intrinsic motivation that
    is driven by the feelings, needs and goals of individuals. This article
    will mainly focus on motivation techniques that help you to increase
    your level of intrinsic motivation; the motivation that comes right
    from the inside of yourself, which doesn’t require external
    influences and can be strengthened by applying motivation methods.
    Nevertheless, let’s get started with the following proven
    motivation techniques:

    I: Quick and Easy Motivation Techniques

    Music: Effective Motivation to Go

    Let’s start with one of the easiest motivation tactic that
    allows you to increase your motivation within seconds: listening to
    music. Music can change your emotional state as it elicits emotions
    within everyone of us, from positive ones that let us feel energized or
    allow us to feel comfortable and relaxed right up to emotions that
    cause sadness and anger. The right song at the right time can do
    wonders in relation to your motivation and can easily be implemented as
    an effective motivator into your everyday life. However, it is very
    important to choose the right type of music, as slow ballads or sad
    songs might have a negative effect on your motivation. Your first
    choice should always be your favorite songs that make you feel happy,
    as you associate positive feelings with these. In case you need some
    inspiration to find more motivational songs you should definitely have
    a look at some of the Best Motivational Songs from
    various genres like Rock & Roll, Metal, Pop, Hip-Hop, Rap,
    Classic and House. In
    the following you can find some more motivational songs:

    Conti — Gonna Fly Now
    Paul Engemann — Push it to The Limit
    Queen — We
    Will Rock You
    Kenny Loggins — Danger Zone
    ACDC — Thunderstruck

    Figure out what types of music get you in an
    energized and motivated state of mind and use these songs to boost your
    motivation and to get motivated for the upcoming day! Music as
    motivator can be easily integrated into your everyday life as you can
    listen to it in almost every situation: when you are showering, during
    your ride to work or when you have a short break and need to get

    Movies: Source of Motivation and Inspiration

    Did you ever felt energized, emotionally charged and ready to take on
    the whole world after watching an excellent movie? The reason for this
    is that movies are conceived to arouse all kinds of emotions within us,
    regardless of whether these emotions are fear, sadness or happiness,
    enthusiasm and optimism. Especially after having a tough day it can be
    tremendously helpful to watch a motivational movie to recharge your
    batteries and to become energized for the next day. Here are five
    motivational movies that will inspire and motivate you:

    Forrest Gump
    Gump is the story of a simple minded man, who views life through a
    child’s eye. The movie shows all the astonishing things he
    accomplishes in his life and how far someone can go without having
    limited-beliefs and despite of having to deal with a numerous of

    The Pursuit of Happyness
    classic rags to riches story about a man who pursues his dreams with
    determination and aspiration, without ever giving up; no matter how
    often he struggles and how worse his life gets.

    Life is Beautiful
    the story of a Jewish man that is with his little son in imprisonment
    of the Nazi’s and uses his imagination to save his son from
    the cruel reality.

    Rain Man
    movie is about a selfish man, whose father bequeathed his fortune to an
    autistic brother he didn’t even knew existed. 

    The Family Man
    movie is about a successful man, who one day finds himself waking up in
    a completely different life, which outlines the life he would be living
    if he had made different decisions in life than he did.

    These movies are amazingly great as they encourage us to think about
    our lives and let us realize how valuable our lives really are. Even
    though it might just be a temporary feeling it can be the trigger that
    helps us to change our lives in a positive way and take control of our

    Books: Words that Enhance your Incentive

    I have discovered for myself that reading a chapter of a book helps me
    to become motivated again and it often stirs my desire to accomplish my
    goals. Some phrases ignite enthusiasm and confidence within myself and
    help me to pursue my goals even more energized than before. Napoleon
    Hill (“Think
    and Grow Rich”), Brian Tracy, Tony
    Robbins and Jim
    Rohn are some of my favorite authors that motivate me
    with every phrase of their books/texts.

    Part II: Powerful Motivation

    Goals: Pure Motivational Power

    After discussing the motivational aspects of music, movies and books it
    is time to bring up the big guns that will allow you to boost
    motivation and peak your incentive. The following motivation techniques
    are by far more powerful than #1, #2 and #3 combined and will help you
    to maintain the motivation for a longer time, but also require more
    efforts in order to be established. One of these powerful motivation
    techniques is to set yourself goals, as they help you to nurture your
    motivation in an effective way and will remind you the reason you put
    so much effort and hard work into the pursuit of your dreams. A wisely
    chosen goal that you really want to achieve allows you to do «whatever
    it takes» until you have accomplished it,
    which will increase your stick-to-itiveness and will enable you to
    reach even the most ambitious aims. However, it is essential that YOU
    have chosen your very own goals, without letting yourself getting
    influenced by friends, family members and your partner. Inherited goals
    that your environment constrained upon you will have no motivational
    benefit for your life at all, as you will most likely not have the
    boundless ambition to accomplish these. Therefore it is important to
    associate positive feelings with your aims, without threats,
    consequences and constraints. As a side note: the more excited you are
    to start pursuing your ambitious goals the more motivated you will

    Rewards: Ignite the Desire

    By holding out the prospect of rewards for the accomplishment of my
    goals I stimulated and motivated myself to achieve even the most
    ambitious aims and visions without giving up. I consider for myself the
    process of linking a reward with the requirement of accomplishing a
    goal to be one of the most effective motivation techniques that I have
    integrated into my life. By rewarding yourself for achieving an aim you
    can teach your mind that you will get rewarded (= positive feelings)
    when you made huge efforts that resulted in the accomplishment of one
    of your goals: [effort = accomplishment = reward]. By holding out the
    prospect of a reward you can ignite the desire to accomplish your goal
    in order to receive the reward. This can be most effective when you try
    to achieve very ambitious aims as it allows you to develop perseverance
    and the attitude to do «whatever necessary» until
    you accomplished the goal. In order to maintain the effectiveness of
    this motivation technique you will only have to comply with these two
    rules: 1. Never reward yourself if you haven’t accomplished
    your aim. 2. Adjust the reward to the goal: The more ambitious your
    goal is the more exciting your reward should be.

    Visualization: Peak Motivation

    Once you have set yourself some ambitious goals and have held out the
    prospect of a reward for their accomplishment you can finally make use
    of visualization techniques that will let you peak motivation.
    Visualizing is definitely not rocket science, but for some it might
    take a few attempts to increase the effect of visualization. All you
    need to do is to imagine yourself achieving what you desire to achieve,
    e.g. the accomplishment of a goal. The more intensive you can imagine
    yourself experiencing all the pleasure and excitement the higher will
    be the benefit from a visualization, as our mind is not able to
    differentiate between a real situation and an experience we just
    visualized in a really intensive way. Make sure to choose a comfortable
    and quite place where you will not get interrupted when you visualize.
    To increase the motivational aspect of visualizing you need to imagine
    the accomplishment of your aims as realistic as possible from the first
    person perspective.

    Vision Board: Self-Motivation the Easy Way

    I have already mentioned that goals are pure motivational power, but
    something that will even increase the positive effect of having goals
    is to create a vision board that includes all your aims, dreams and
    visions. Furthermore, having a vision board can help you to keep your
    goals in mind, which is necessary as they won’t no longer
    motivate you as soon as you have forgotten them. Your vision board
    should include photos of all the goals, aims and dreams you desire to
    accomplish and be placed in a location where you can have a look at it
    at least once a day. Preferably you should place it in front of your
    office desk, home desk or wherever you need to get motivated the most.
    A vision board will help you to maintain and strengthen your incentive
    as it will be easier for you to associate excitement and enthusiasm
    with a bunch of pictures rather than a list of plain emotionless words.

    Needs: Know your Motivational Desires

    Accordingly to Maslow’s hierarchy of needs everyone of us has
    unsatisfied needs and desires (from basic to complex ones) that
    influence our behavior, whereas satisfied needs do not. As soon as we
    have satisfied basic needs, such as hunger and thirst we focus towards
    the satisfaction of the next level of needs, such as safety and health
    which is followed by friendship and love and thereafter comes the
    desire for recognition and achievement until we have reached the
    highest level of needs: self actualization. Maslow’s
    consists of the following five needs that are listed from the most
    complex to basic ones:

    1. Self-actualization
    (morality, creativity)
    Self-esteem needs (achievement,
    Love/Belonging (friendship,
    partnership, family)
    Safety needs (security
    of oneself, the family, property)
    Physiological needs (food,
    water, breathing)


    To use Maslow’s hierarchy of needs to get motivated you need
    be able to identify at what stage of the pyramid you see yourself and
    match your goals and activities towards the satisfaction of the needs
    in this particular stage. Professional supervisors make use of
    Maslow’s hierarchy as well, by motivating their employees
    accordingly to their individual needs, by providing securities (e.g.
    job security, health insurances) and by letting team members satisfy
    their need for acceptance and respect from others.

    NLP: Subconscious Self-Motivation?

    Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP)
    is the study of how the mind works that encompasses neurology, language
    and programming; the three most influential aspects that are necessary
    to let a human experience something. NLP can also be used to peak
    performance and boost motivation within a few seconds. In order to
    increase your level of motivation you can apply so called
    “reconditioning techniques” to establish emotions,
    such as desire and enthusiasm towards an action and attach these
    feelings with your goals, which will subconsciously increase your
    motivation. When you have read the points #4 and #5 you will notice
    that having goals that are linked to rewards is very similar to this
    NLP technique, without going too much into detail of the human mind.
    However, NLP is a study of its own and would go beyond the scope of
    this article, as there are many important things to consider when
    exercising NLP techniques.

    Self Motivation for Confidence and Self Esteem

    Self Motivation for Confidence and Self Esteem

    This is central to everything positive that you want to do in your life. Perhaps it is even more important than your self esteem! What you say to yourself is extremely important and if you want to learn more about self talk and how to help yourself by talking to yourself more positively visit the self talk page now.

    If you want to improve your motivation or self esteem or improve yourself in any way you need the desire and will to do it.

    I hear you saying that not everything comes from within. You may be motivated by external factors, others may encourage you to start something new or begin moving in a positive direction. You can be motivated by faith, by your belief in God and in doing what is right. You can even be motivated by negative events to achieve positively. But what is important is how you think about what happens to you. Optimism is a great help and will prepare you for new challenges and make it more likely that you will succeed. Negative thinking will always demotivate you so you need to think positively even in the most difficult situations. This is not denial of reality but a useful tool in your armour. Read how you can end negative thoughts and motivate yourself more.

    But what is the result of these external factors? Motivation – you are moved to achieve something you badly want.

    Why do you need self motivation?

    • You cannot always rely on others to encourage you, if you have positive friends who are always there when you need them then you are indeed lucky and very much in the minority. If you are lonely or have few friends when you face any difficulties in your life you must rely on your own motivation to get you through. Lack of self motivation at that time could lead to depression.
    • You need self motivation to achieve because if you don’t encourage yourself to accept opportunity and challenge who will?
    • To plan and find direction in your life
    • To take up a new activity, hobby or challenge
    • To be enthusiastic about life and living
    • To have the courage to see things through despite setbacks or negative comments from others

    This is not an exhaustive list because self motivation is so important in every aspect of your life. The very fact that you are here searching for answers and trying to improve yourself shows that you are motivated.

    Do you lack self motivation ?

    A True Example of How to Deal With Setbacks

    Thomas Edison invented the incandescent light bulb. He is said to have failed trying many many thousands of times before he finally got it right. He is a great example of how self motivation will keep you going through what most people would think of as failure. Instead of giving in after one of his many attempts didn’t work, he kept going and tried something different and eventually succeeded. You could say his persistence lit up the world! He would only have failed if he had stopped and given up. This is what he said about his experience after trying thousands of times without success:

    “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”

    How Can You Become Motivated?

    Good question!

    Here are some suggestions:
    • Focus on what you really enjoy doing, maybe on something you want to take up or on a hobby you’ve always wanted to devote more time to. What’s stopping you? Think about giving it priority to start doing what you love doing.
    • Make a list of things you’d like to improve on and how you’re going to do it
    • Review all the successes you’ve enjoyed in every area of your life, totally forget any negatives, just positive successes here!
    • Start an exercise program – force yourself to do it, it’ll make you feel much more positive.
    • Contact a positive friend and have a chat.
    • Read inspiring books that will help heal your mind and improve your attitude. I have put together a list of highly recommended self help books I know will help you so take a look and order one or two – you’re going to find inspiration on every page!

    Are you having a problem with your motivation?

    Even the most positive of people sometimes face a situation where they lack  motivation. This happens to us all because we all face the same or at least similar difficulties in life. True you may be affected more or less than others because you react differently to the challenges and setbacks which you face. It is your attitude and responses to life which dictate how you feel.

    Abusive people lower your self esteem and put you down. If you live with an abusive person you are at a big disadvantage and may suffer very low confidence. The best advice is to get this abusive person out of your life, don’t accept abuse ever. If you absolutely can’t escape that person then you need great inner strength to stand up to it.

    Self hypnosis is a wonderful way to improve your self motivation. Try this amazing self hypnosis download – Building your self esteem  now! It really works!

    You may have friends who are negative or who put you down. This shows they have a problem but the tragedy is these people suck you dry of positive energy and being with negative people can only sap your inner strengths. Chances are that any self motivation you have they will slowly destroy and bring you down to their level.

    Poor self confidence may prevent you from being motivated and hold you back so why not build your self confidence now, so many people have been helped by these hypnosis downloads and the CD Trainer which you can order extra (this CD is perfect for maintaining and improving your confidence permanently and I have used it and recommend you get it – it’s worth every penny!) good luck!

    How to Change Your Attitude and Become More Self Motivated

    A reader sent me something that really made me realize there is one major change you need to make to your attitude towards life that will help you become much more self motivated. It is how you face the problems and challenges that are in front of you. What is your attitude towards life and the problems it throws at you?

    Here is the change you need to make:

    “Understanding that I have things to learn no matter what I go through. There is only winning and learning…”

    So what does this mean for you? Difficulties are a normal part of life and we all have to face them daily, weekly and sometimes these problems seem very difficult to overcome. If you can change your attitude towards these “problems” and see them as “challenges” then you are half way to increased levels of self motivation.

    What is a challenge? Well, it is a more positive word than problem and that will help you. A challenge is an opportunity. Life is a learning experience and an opportunity to learn and improve is something to overcome on your road to success. Think of it like a ladder and at the top is your goal. You need to climb the ladder with energy believing you can reach the top. As you go higher you find different challenges (each rung of the ladder) which you must overcome to move towards your goal. Stop or fall off and you can’t reach your goal. Your self motivation helps you keep hold and keep going. Focusing on your goal rather than the obstacles ahead and the difficulty of the climb keeps you motivated.

    Just imagine what you will have learned when you reach the top, how will your life be better? How will you feel when you succeed?

    The next step is to understand that you win by overcoming your challenges. They are not there to defeat you but to help you learn and become stronger. Motivation increases as you move closer to your goal and motivation falls as you move away or believe you cannot succeed. Stay focused on the goal and only go for that which you really want. Remind yourself what it will be like when you get there.

    Another very important shift in your thinking happens when you enjoy the challenges or the journey to your goal. Steps along the way can be small and pleasant if you make them so. Your self motivation will also increase if you reward yourself when you succeed even with a small step.

    You cannot lose if you keep trying your best, it is only a matter of time until you succeed. At any time you may change your goal or the steps you need to follow. This is not giving up but maybe you decide at some point there is something else you want to do or your goal no longer applies. You decide what you aim for and you decide when you are a success. Failure only means you haven’t succeeded yet.

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