How To Not Cry When Cutting Onions
January 9, 2013
I don’t really cry that much when slicing onions, but occasionally I’ll get a super potent onion and these tips have really seemed to help lesson the tears.
How to Avoid Crying When Slicing and Onion
1. Use a very sharp knife. The sharper your knife, the less you will have to hack away at the onion and break down more of the cells.
2. Chew extra Minty Gum.
3. A sweet friend, Lisa Anderson, recently told me that she places a whole piece of bread in her mouth so that none of the onion hits her nose. I’d heard this one before, but never knew if it actually worked.
4. Purchase Onion Goggles. 😉
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How to Not Cry Over Spilled Milk
Recently I knocked from my fridgetop an adorable little bottle of Spanish balsamic vinegar my mom brought from Barcelona. I was feeling especially grounded that day and somehow, before it even struck the floor, I was over it.
On a different day I might have sworn and fretted about it, cursed myself as I picked up its pieces, felt bad about wrecking a thoughtful gift from my mom, and pondered my chronic failure to keep my belongings organized and in good condition. One thought may have led to another until I decided I was in too bad a mood to write than night, watched nature shows and ate Ben & Jerry’s, and went to bed disappointed with myself.
Sour moods are like that — infectious and self-sustaining — and they’re born in the moments when we feel resigned, disappointed or incompetent.
Normally, when something breaks like that, there’s a rather strong reaction. The body tenses, gasps, swears, maybe groans like Homer Simpson. The mind sulks, scowls or scorns itself.
It doesn’t feel good. We feel run over, shameful, wasteful, distinctly worse off than we were before this (latest) minor tragedy. A little cloud forms over one’s head: loss.
Loss is an emotion all of its own. It’s the feeling of wrongness or injustice that comes over you when you suddenly don’t have something you feel you should.
At the very least, we experience an unpleasant spike of frustration, but often the crappy feeling lingers for minutes, hours or longer. Sooner or later we accept it. Naturally, sooner is better.
Right after you dump that Coke on your keyboard or discover that crack in your windshield, you might curse yourself, or someone else, or God, for wrecking something that was perfectly fine. It didn’t have to be that way. What a waste. Life was fine, and now it’s not!
Surely, before you read this post, you weren’t thinking about the all of thousands of little losses you’ve suffered in your life: dishes that were dropped, ice cream cones that were fumbled, plans that were rained out, afternoons that were wasted in front of the TV. Everyone has countless tiny disappointments in their past. Thousands of awful little moments that — in their time — strained our heartstrings and made us frown.
But obviously you got over them at some point. You had to. Even if you couldn’t accept it at first, life moved steadily away from ground zero until you couldn’t help but be done grieving that particular plate/shirt/girl/expectation.
Almost always, these little snafus have no measurable far-reaching effect on our lives, but in the moment, they hurt. And once we feel that sting, it’s hard to find the perspective it takes to see it for the inconsequential hiccup that it is, in the grand scope of life. You still have to deal with the fallout of what happened anyway (stained clothes, lack of ice cream) but that’s certainly easier when you’re not crying about it, or wishing it didn’t happen.
What if we could bring acceptance to these little losses, without the seemingly mandatory “grief period?”
I’m not talking about the death of family members, or the flooding of your home. I’m talking about the thousands of little tragedies that spoil so many of our moods. The disheartening but ultimately minor losses we strive so hard to avoid: the ding in your car door, the game-winning field goal the other team scores, the grass stain on your jeans you know will never come out, the bland meal you paid thirty bucks for.
This kind of stuff can make a mood bad, and a bad mood can infect the rest of the day, to say the least.
There seems to be a clear sequence to these mini-tragedies:
1) Something unfortunate happens
2) We react emotionally; life seems to be suddenly worse because of said unfortunate thing
3) We accept that what’s done is done, and we carry on from wherever we are
Step two is never fun, and it seldom accomplishes much. Depending on the severity, it can last a few moments, a half hour, a whole afternoon or longer. Worst of all it leaves a person more vulnerable to other emotional reactions, as long as it does last. That’s the stuff bad days are made of.
So how do we skip it? Step one is instantaneous, and thus, easy to get through. Step three feels good. So it’s only the middle part that sucks. Acceptance will happen eventually, so why do we have to get through that pointless emotional gauntlet to get back to “all is well”?
The trouble is, the reaction is mostly automatic. Emotions are reflexes; it’s really hard to insert a dose of reason into the tiny sliver of time between the smashing of glass and the souring of the mood. By the time you can remind yourself “It’s okay, this kind of stuff happens, it’s no big deal, I’ll just clean it up and move on,” the blow has been struck, and the emotions are already swirling.
When I destroyed the cute little vinegar bottle, widowing its olive oil companion, I happened to be in a very easygoing mindset. Without even frowning, I just tore off some paper towels and sopped it up. Then I went on to something else, and life continued without a hint of despair. Somehow I had managed to slip past that nasty ‘middle phase’ of the process. Instant acceptance.
For me, this kind of perspective comes and goes, but I was especially conscious that day. The reason I was able to accept it without reaction was that I had accepted it before it happened.
As usual, the Buddhists had this one figured out centuries ago. They learned to outsmart the emotion of loss with this ingenious directive: see everything as already broken.
Everything in life is impermanent. If you’ve got the perspective to realize it, all forms come and go, without exception. Things break, fade, get lost and spoiled. No exceptions.
Or if you prefer it in Fight-Club-speak:
On a long enough timeline, the survival rate of everything drops to zero.
~Chuck Palahniuk, Fight Club
There can be no argument with destiny, and it is the destiny of all forms to eventually cease to exist. They are constantly on their way to becoming something else: a broken or weakened version of themselves, debris, rubble, dust.
Objects are created, used, enjoyed and eventually broken. Fibres are woven into clothing, serve as such, then fade, fray and fall apart. People are born, develop, age and die. It’s actually quite beautiful, if you can zoom out far enough to see that there is a whole process at work here.
Pick up any object you value. Your jacket, your laptop, your sunglasses. Turn it over in your hands, and admire its beauty and other qualities. Consider all it does for you.
Now, picture it broken. Crushed, frayed, destroyed. Know that everything is slated for destruction in some way, in due time.
This isn’t a recipe for pessimism; it’s just making peace with the fact that things can’t help but change, and this unfortunate turn of events was supposed to happen.
When you look at things with the mind that they are already broken, suddenly you become grateful for everything that remains unbroken, and all it can do for you. When it does eventually break, instead of “Oh crap!” you can smile and say, “…and there it goes. As it should.” And it seems right.
There is an incredible peace that comes with real-time acceptance of change. You can see right into the passage of time itself, look it in the eye, and be okay with it. And if you’re okay with change, you’re okay with everything. You don’t have to choose which changes you’ll accept, you just accept the universe, along with its unchangeable habit of changing, as the package deal that it is and always was.
If you’re ready to face this beautiful truth fully, use this exercise on a pet, a loved one, and yourself.
The bottle was already doomed. It just needed me to get to its next destination.
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How To Not Cry When Putting on Eyeliner
When it comes to applying eyeliner, the struggle is so real. Some have shaky hands, while others often tear up from product being applied very close to their eyes. If you fall into the latter category, Kim Kardahian’s makeup artist Mario Dedivanovic has some solutions.
We were #blessed to learn from him at a special, editors-only master makeup class in NYC hosted by Jergens. First of all, he feels your pain.
«There’s really nothing you can do about that, I hate when that happens,» he said. «Like it starts tearing on the corner and then your eyeliner gets messed up. It’s the worst.»
Mario explained three techniques to try when you get weepy putting pencil near your waterline.
The Tissue Tip
He advises to grab a tissue for the process. «My best tip over the years is just to have a tissue wrapped about your finger and before it comes out, you lightly tap it,» he explained.
The Breathing Technique
There is also a breathing technique you can try to keep the tears out all together. «Whenever you feel that tears are going to come out, there is a breathing technique you do,» he noted. «You breathe in through your nose, and what happens is that you suck the tears in as opposed from them being able to come out. It’s tricky, but you can get the hang of it when you start to practice it.» Perhaps this is another reason to take up meditation in 2017.
The Bobby Pin Hack
The most interesting tidbit we learned comes from women overseas. «When I was in the Middle East, the Arab girls taught me a trick,» he said. «You take a bobby pin and you clip it to your ear. And its painful but somehow that doesn’t allow your tears to come out. I haven’t tried that but apparently the girls in the Middle East, they do that.»
Good luck and be safe!
How to Not Feel Bad For Not Crying at Funeral
The funeral is the moment when bereaved families mourn their deceased beloved. Friends, colleagues and the extended family relatives join up together with the closest relatives to mourn and comfort each other. It is noteworthy that people are different. Thus they respond uniquely, that may seem ideal or unusual. For instance, while some people may cry, others will express joy and celebrate the legacy of the deceased. Sadness expressed through crying is a commonly expected mood and feeling at any funeral especially for close relatives. Whether one cries or not at the funeral, does not necessarily mean they are not mourning. However, some express ambivalent emotions, which may leave the crowd in suspense of common intention. Irrespective of how one expresses their feelings, people ought to respect one another and most importantly the family of the bereaved. This is why further funerals researches are needed to help educate people of the different reactions to death. Accommodation of these different responses is mandatory to maintain peace and calmness at any funeral.
Four tips to prevent feeling bad for not crying at funerals
People express their emotions differently; don’t feel guilty for how you do it
Personality traits of an individual determine many things in their lives. Among them is their ability to express themselves, talk or feel concerning major events that happen in their lives and that of other people. Human beings have the liberty to express oneself verbally or through actions without judgment from other people. The same applies to personal expressions at funerals. No one is restricted to a particular way of reacting to death. Crying and sobbing is allowed but is not mandatory. Besides, some people consider death to be the way one rests from troubles of this world. This means it should be worthy of celebration, which is not conducted through crying!
Funerals are supposed to comfort and not necessarily to cry
Have you ever found yourself not crying at funerals and wondered whether it is normal? Worry not! It is perfectly fine to feel that way. Besides, a funeral service exists to allow friends and family to extend comfort to the bereaved family. Comfort can be done through different ways. In fact, crying at a funeral may limit one’s ability to comfort the family of the deceased appropriately. Overwhelming emotions can result in irrational thoughts making one forget the real reason for the funeral — comfort. If you feel unable to express yourself through crying as other people do, then offer support through any possible way that would be considered by the deceased family members.
Become engaged in other activities the deceased family will benefit from
Various activities and chores at any funeral may involve taking care of the kids, preparing meals and serving visitors. Since one may feel uncomfortable being in a crying crowd without feeling the urge to do the same, it is advisable for that person to find some activities to prevent the bad feeling or stigma. The deceased family directly feels every effort from friends and colleagues at a funeral. It is a way of passing your condolences and comfort to them. Instead of worrying about crying, find some responsibility to accomplish in your pursuit to comfort and show your love for the deceased.
Appreciate and accept yourself
It is one thing to understand yourself, and an entirely different thing to accept and appreciate yourself. People have different personalities, which should not be a point of embarrassment. If you are not a crier at funerals, accept the fact it is happening to you. Do not worry about other people. Instead, appreciate the fact you are different. Do something you can to place yourself in a more or less comfortable position. It could be serving or child-care which may mean a lot to the mourning family. Only through accepting yourself you can feel comfortable and guiltless of the things that you do differently from other people.
It is important to mourn with those who mourn due to loss of a beloved. As people gather to do the same, different expressions of sadness or related emotions are expected. Commonly, people cry at funerals. However, some do not cry due to personality differences. To those who do not cry, accept that you are different from those who do and engage yourself in other activities that would help to comfort the family. Always remember expressing love and comfort to the deceased family is paramount and is not limited to crying.
How to Train Your Dog to Not Cry at Night
How long have you been practicing crate training during the day for? If you have been practicing the crate with Buddy for five to seven days at least, then you should be fine crating him overnight. If he cries, ignore it unless you believe something is truly wrong with him.
All the different advice can be confusing. Essentially, you want to avoid crating your puppy for long periods of time during the day before he is used to it because he will be awake most of the time during the day and has not yet learned how to cope with being in the crate by settling down, chewing on chew toys, and relaxing. You are helping him learn those things during the day by practicing. The daytime is a great time to practice because during the day you are awake to give him feedback when he is doing well, so that he will learn what he is supposed to do in the crate.
At night he should go to sleep most of the time. The only time that he will have to self-sooth and self-entertain is when you first put him in the crate and if he wakes up at night and needs to put himself back to sleep. This drastically reduces the amount of time he needs to be used to being in the crate for. If he can be calm in the crate for thirty-minutes during the day, then he will probably do well overnight in it too.
Continue working up to longer periods of time in the crate during the day to develop his skills there, but you should be fine crating him overnight in the meantime. When you crate him, put a chew toy in there with him so that he can self-sooth with that if he wakes up. Reward him initially for going into the crate without getting him too excited and give him a chew toy that will not keep him up all night but will give him something to do for a few minutes while he gets settled. After he is in, then turn off lights and make sure it is quiet and stays dark where he is so that his body will feel like going to sleep and staying asleep. Either work on getting him used to you walking out of the room while he is crated during the day or put the crate into your room at first to minimize his crying. This is because he is currently used to you being next to the crate and not leaving him. You can crate him in a different room at night right from the start too but that will be a more abrupt approach, and you can expect a few days of crying that way since he will have to learn to be alone suddenly instead of gradually. In the end it should work just fine but it can be hard to stay firm when he cries, and you need to stay firm and not let him out if you choose to crate him overnight.
Crate training allows you to travel with your dog, for others to keep him, for you to keep him safe, to prevent destructive chewing habits, to speed up potty training, and when used properly, to prevent many cases of separation anxiety be teaching independence, self-soothing, and self-entertaining. Try to remember the benefits when it is hard to be consistent at times. Even though many puppies protest at some point, if you persist, then he will have more freedom due to his good habits later on. The crate is to keep him safe and eventually give him more freedom and trust.
Best of luck training,
How to Chop an Onion and Not Cry
We’ve all heard that this trick or that works for stopping onion-induced tears, but what if you don’t happen to have a sharp enough knife on hand – is there another method that you can use? Why of course, and we’ve created a roundup of the all ways that we could find to stop onions from making you cry.
Why do we cry you ask? Well, according to food scientist Harold McGee, onions, and others in the onion family, make our eyes water as part of a defense mechanism through the use of sulfur. The growing plants take up sulfur from the soil and turn it into a weapon when cells are damaged through chopping. Onions, shallots, and leeks in particular are the ones that make us cry; this sulfur product is called the “lacrimator.” While the onions are cut, the chemical escapes from the injured cells and enters the attacker’s eyes and nose where it apparently strikes nerve endings resulting in tears aplenty. How do you prevent this from happening? Check out what we found below.
Tricks for Not Crying:
1. McGee recommends chilling the onions with the skins on in ice water for 30-60 minutes to slow down the release of the enzyme, giving the cutter more time to get the work done.
2. Put the onion halves in the freezer for 20 minutes before chopping. (Again, this probably works in a similar fashion to the chilling-in-water method, but requires less prep time.)
3. Using a very sharp knife while cutting seems to be a feasible option as that would reduce the amount of damage done to the cells, therefore lowering the amount of chemicals released.
4. Chop the onions under a powerful hood or next to a very strong fan that will blow the gas away from you. (Although if you don’t have a hood, then this could get messy with a fan if onion pieces started flying. )
More, Less-Explainable, Methods:
I’m not quite sure why these other methods are believed to work, but there seem to be plenty of people who stand by them – try them out and let us know what happens!
5. Place a piece of bread between your teeth while chopping. Maybe it distracts or absorbs the chemicals?
6. Chew on gum or another bite of food (might be just an excuse to eat while you prep, but we’ll take it).
7. Put a metal spoon or other utensil in your mouth while peeling and chopping – sounds weird but it works.
Some Questionable Methods:
8. Cutting an onion under running water – wouldn’t your hand slip? Especially if you are using a sharp knife?
Our thoughts: Don’t try it.
9. Burning a candle next to you while you chop so that the flame pulls the gases toward it and away from you.
Our thoughts: Possibility of danger/fire is high, especially if it doesn’t work and you start crying and swatting at things.
10. Wear goggles or a ski mask while chopping.
Our thoughts: Eh, those are always a pain to adjust and you might get stuck with old goggle face. And you could end up looking like this guy: