How To Get A Girlfriend In High School [13 PROVEN TRICKS]
Getting a girlfriend can be tough for any person of any age. Not only can it be intimidating, it can be confusing as well. But it can be especially intimidating to do it when you are in high school.
Depending on what grade you are in, a large number of people at this age have never been in a relationship or gone on a date before. And even if you have dated before, it is different in high school.
At this time of your life, emotions are stronger and people take these things a little more seriously. And in high school, everyone is still learning what it means to become an adult. There are many factors to consider when you are trying to get a girlfriend in high school.
First of all, how do you even pick someone to be your girlfriend? Who do you like? Is there someone that you feel drawn to, like you have a strong connection that could possibly lead to something more? Or maybe there is a girl in your school who you do not know that well but there is something about her that you cannot get out of her head. If any of this sounds familiar to you, then maybe you have found the girl who you want to be your high school girlfriend.
Below are a few tips on how you can get a girlfriend in high school. While you do not necessarily need to do all of these things in order to get a girlfriend, following at least some of these tips can help improve your chances of finding the right girl for you.
How To Get A Girlfriend In High School
Take Care of Yourself
The first step to getting a girlfriend in high school is making yourself appear appealing. Most girls will not want a slob. High school boys are known for not always being particular about how they groom themselves. This is something you want to consider when you are trying to get a girlfriend.
If you are interested in having a girlfriend, one of the first things that you will really need to make sure that you take care of yourself first. This can be as simple as brushing your hair and using deodorant or you can even try to dress decently and look attractive. Make sure that your socks match and that your clothes are washed and do not try to douse yourself in too much cologne either.
How you take care of yourself really depends on what your comfort level is, but you should at least try to look appealing to girls. At the very least, you should avoid being smelly. Do your best to look and smell nice, otherwise you could have a hard time finding a girlfriend.
You might even want to take this a step further by trying to avoid looking like you just rolled out of bed. In addition to washing your face, brushing your teeth, and combing your hair. Ideally, your clothes will not be all wrinkled. If you take some care in how you dress yourself, girls will take notice of that. If you have some female friends or guy friends who are not single, they might be able to give you some help as well.
Keep in mind that you do not need to give yourself a complete makeover in order to get a girlfriend. Nor should you try to be someone that you are not. But try to at least smell nice and look presentable for the girl that you like.
This is not necessarily a suggestion to date your friends. But when you have your own circle of friends, a girl can be more likely to see you as more approachable. If you keep to yourself and do not interact with others, then how will you be able to meet a girl? Friends are also great because they can help you showcase some of your best qualities.
When you have friends, your crush might see that you have people who value you and care about you as a person. Whereas if you have no friends or are always burning bridges with friends, she might notice that as well and take it as a bad sign. If you have trouble making or keeping friends, then she might think that you have trouble with people and any sort of relationship, be it romantic or platonic.
If you are patient, loyal, and generous, for example, that might come through in how you treat your friends. And try to have friends of both genders. Having friends who are girls can help you to understand how girls think and they might be able to give you good advice that your guy friends might not be able to give to you.
Having a group of friends will also help you work on your social skills. You will learn how to be a good friend which can be a good base for learning how to be a good boyfriend. Having friends might also help you gain confidence.
In high school, it can be easy to get lost in the crowd. Luckily, there are various ways for you to stand out in school. You can participate and raise your hand in class once in a while or take part in school activities. Even though raising your hand in class will get her attention, you will also want to avoid being a know it all. You might know a lot about the subject, but you want to give other classmates a chance to have their turn.
At the same time, do not just join activities to get a girlfriend. For example, you should not join the football team just because you think it will get you a girlfriend. You should participate in activities that genuinely interest you.
Get Her Attention
If you do not even talk to the girl you like, then how will you get her to be your girlfriend? Start out by saying hi to her every day. You can slowly build a rapport with her that will make her comfortable and friendly with you.
You can find excuses to talk to her, especially if you have a class together. You can ask her about your homework or try to study or do homework together.
In school, you can also get her attention by making others laugh or by being active in your school. Just avoid making a fool of yourself. You don’t want her to think that you are just a class clown who will take nothing seriously.
Find Something in Common
A great way to get a girlfriend is by having something in common with her. This can be found in a common after-school activity, liking the same music, or a variety of other things. In order to find out what you have in common, you will have to get to know her more.
On a smaller scale, you can even talk about a class you both have, the weather, or a school event that is coming up. If you have some mutual friends, then that is a great way you can connect over. And if your friends are willing, they can help you to facilitate the connection so you can get the ball rolling.
When it comes to the girl you like, you will want to avoid faking a common interest with her. While it is admirable that you want to feel more closely connected to her, it is better if your shared interests are genuine ones that you can really connect over. Besides, if you fake an interest in something and she finds out, she might lose respect for you.
Avoid Having a Bad Reputation
While it is good for your crush to know who you are, you don’t want her to know you for bad things. If you are always getting in trouble at school, that can be a huge turn off for her. Or if you are mean to other classmates, she might hear about that too.
If you are a class clown, there is a chance that she might not be able to take you seriously as boyfriend material. So be careful of the reputation that you create for yourself.
Remember that people will also judge you based on who you hang out with, especially in high school. If you are friends with bullies or people who are always getting detention, girls will take note of that and many of them might assume that you are bad news as well.
Spend Time Together Outside of School
There are many ways you and your crush can spend time together after school. You can hang around her locker and stop to chat for a few minutes after school has ended. You can also offer to walk her home.
You can also spend time together at the library and do homework or study together. If you have a shared interest, then you can join an extracurricular activity together.
If you are more familiar with each other, you can even ask her if she wants to grab a bite nearby. You can also invite her over to your place to do homework or watch TV. These are just a few ways that you can spend time together after school.
You might be hesitant to jump straight into dates with this girl or maybe she is feeling hesitant about this. You can put her at ease by inviting her to hang out with you and your friends. This will also give her an opportunity to get to know the other people in your life. In time, she might be more eager and more comfortable to just hang out with you.
Get Her Alone
This advice does not mean that you should necessarily get her all alone in a room. But you should try to have one on one conversations with her. If she is always surrounded by your friends, then how can you really get to know each other?
If she really is around her friends all the time, then you might have to ask her if she can talk to you alone for a minute.
You can also spend alone time with her if you are able to partner up on a class project together. If you have a science class together and none of her close friends are in that class, then you can ask her to be your lab partner.
When you already know a girl, it can get tricky when you get closer to her. If you like her, you want to avoid going straight into friend territory. This is why flirting is important as it will show the girl you like that you are interested in her romantically. There are subtle ways to flirt with a girl without coming off as creepy.
If you know where this girl’s locker is, then you can stop and say hi to her when you walk by. Even if you do not have classes together, you can walk her to class if you are heading in the same direction.
You can compliment the girl you like by saying that she looks nice today. You can hold the door open for her and chat with her on the lunch line. If you are in a class together, you can see if she will partner with you during group projects.
Another effective flirting method is to find excuses to lightly touch your crush. You can touch her shoulder if she says something funny. At the same time, be aware of her boundaries and make sure that you respect them.
Make eye contact with her. This will make her feel closer to you and it will let her know that you are listening to what she has to say. Looking her in the eyes will show that you have an interest in her.
When she talks, you can lean in towards her. This body language will tell her that you are tuned in to her. You can also nod your head occasionally when she talks.
Leave Her Wanting More
While it can be tempting to focus all of your attention on your crush, you also want her to know that you have a life and are not way too obsessive. If you do come off that way, then she might see you as way too intense for her.
It is definitely encouraged to have conversations with the girl you like. After talking about yourself a little bit, you can leave more information for the next time you talk. You should certainly leave her wanting to know even more about you. That way, you will definitely have an excuse to continue the conversation soon.
Even when she ask you things such as your plans for the weekend, do not tell her every little detail as this might bore her. Just tell her one or two things and do not forget to ask her what she is doing too. You must always show an interest in her life, especially when she shows an interest in yours.
Again, do not give her everything right away. If you do want to make physical moves, try to not rush things. If you try to do too much with her right away, she will think that all you care about is a hookup instead of becoming her actual boyfriend. If you are serious about being in a relationship, then you will actually need to court her a little bit.
Ask Her On a Date
There are many ways to ask your crush on a date. You can ask her out in person, pass her a note in class, have a friend give her the note, or ask her through text messaging or e-mail. So no matter how shy you are, there is really no excuse not to go for it.
Before you ask your crush on a date, make sure she at least knows you. If you have never really had a conversation with this girl, then why should she want to go on a date with you? Make sure that you develop some sort of rapport with her before you ask her out.
If a special event like a school dance is coming up, you can ask her as your date as well. At the same time, you should be aware that friends will sometimes go as dates together so you will want it to be clear that you do have romantic feelings for her.
Do you have a school play, art show, or some other event coming up? You can ask her to go with you and see if she is keen on coming as your date.
When you ask this girl to go out on a date with you, avoid being vague. Instead of saying “do you want to grab a bite sometime,” you are better off thinking of a specific time and place. If she cannot do that time but is genuinely interested, she will figure out a date that works for both of you.
Do Not Act Entitled
While there is nothing wrong with making your feelings known to the girl you like, do not be obnoxious about it either. Even if you are nice to her, it does not mean that she owes you anything. All that you can do is lay down the groundwork and hope that she will reciprocate your feelings.
If she does like you back, then you have a very good chance of getting her to become your girlfriend. Never take her for granted, including when you are still trying to date her. If you act disrespectful towards her or spurn her, then she will be a lot less likely to want to become your girlfriend.
Since you are in high school, you will be surrounded by lots of other people. You might want to impress other people, especially your friends. If you have a girl that you are courting or who is showing interest in you, do not run to your friends and brag about it. If you do this, you will risk embarrassing this girl or she might not like you talking about her to other people. Always be discreet in these matters.
Be a Gentleman
This ties into the last piece of advice. Treat her how you would want to be treated. Do not take it badly or personally if she does not want to be your girlfriend. Just move on and find someone who will reciprocate your feelings. You deserve to be with someone who likes you back and you certainly cannot force those feelings.
And if you are lucky enough to get a girl to be your girlfriend, then do not take her for granted and do not pressure her to do anything that she does not want to do. Respect her boundaries and try your best to be a good listener and a thoughtful boyfriend.
In terms of being intimate, always ask first before you do anything. Whether you want to hold her hand or kiss her, make sure to ask first. This will help make sure that you are both comfortable and ready. You want to make sure that you have a trusting relationship where each other’s boundaries and needs are respected.
As you can see, there are many steps to getting a girlfriend in high school. Remember to take care of your appearances, treat people nicely, and to treat the girl that you like with respect. Show a genuine interest in her and do not be fake as an attempt to make her like you more.
Do not be shy. Build a rapport with this girl and get to know her. Gather the courage to ask her out on a date and if she says no, that is okay. You can use the confidence that you have now to move on and pursue someone else. Be confident and sure of yourself without being arrogant. And with some luck and effort, you will get yourself a girlfriend in high school.
How to Have a Threesome With Your Girlfriend
Peter: “What would you do if you had a million dollars?”
Lawrence: “I’ll tell you what I’d do, man, two chicks at the same time, man.”
– Office Space
This quote reminds us of the collective male fantasy – the infamous ménage-a-trois. Though the 2 girls/1 guy sexual combination is known for being a predominantly male pipe dream, I’ve found that it’s many women’s idea of a good time, too.
I’ve had guys tell me…
“My girlfriend wants to share a girl with me for my birthday.”
“My girlfriend’s into other girls and thought it would be fun to have someone join us.”
“My wife said she had a fantasy about me, her, and another women. She said it kind of turned her on.”
There isn’t just my anecdotal experience, either. The research backs it up:
- In 2013, the National Survey of Sexual Attitudes and Lifestyles (arguably Britain’s leading surveyor in the field) interviewed over 15,000 adults and found that 18.4% of women age 16-34 had a sexual experience with another woman, with 8.4% of those being genital contact.
- Cornell University surveyed 20,000 people in 80 communities across the United States. They found that 14.4% of young women identified as not strictly heterosexual, i.e. either lesbian or bisexual.
- Psychology Professor Elizabeth Morgan at Boise State University found that 60% of women were physically attracted to other women. 50% have had sexual fantasies of other women and even 45% had kissed another woman.
Whatever the exact numbers are, it’s clear that many women are attracted and sexually interested in other women.
So if your girlfriend or wife is down for it and you are, too — let’s get it on.
Bringing up the subject
This article mostly assumes that you’re dating a woman who’s already expressed interest in this idea. If you haven’t, then it’s time to test the waters and gauge her response.
Understand that this can be a touchy subject. If brought up at a bad time or in the wrong context, it can strain your relationship. The last thing you want to do is make your partner feel like you’re not satisfied with her. Many men who are completely happy in their relationships find it exciting, novel, and sexy to add another woman to the mix and spice things up.
But your mindset going into this should be to make this experience about your partner and you.
This isn’t some bullshit game because I hope you actually want this for her as much as you do for yourself. This should not be used as an excuse to get with another woman and cheat on your partner. Instead, you should genuinely want to see your partner have fun.
As I said earlier, you want these discussions to be at appropriate times. The best way to do this is during intimate conversations, post-sex, or when you’re both opening up about your fantasies. You could even share how you had a sexy dream about her with another woman.
Another idea is to use an interactive sex questionnaire such as Mojo Upgrade. You both fill out a survey about your sexual desires. If you share a common fetish, the survey notifies you. This way, you only discover what you’re both into.
Let her know you think she would enjoy the experience. Reinforce how sexy it would be to watch her play with another beautiful woman and for her to be in complete ecstasy.
If she’s curious or even open to the idea, you may suggest boundaries that would make her feel more comfortable. Many couples start with only having the man spectate. Or they have rules in which he can’t touch the other woman without his partner’s permission. Or that he may only go so far with the other woman but not have penetrative sex.
Sometimes, it even helps to roleplay in the bedroom when she’s expressed interest. During an intimate session, you can describe what you think the experience would be like for her. Help her visualize and even feel what it would be like to be touched in this setting. The more she gets into it, the more likely she’ll desire it in the future.
You want to make your girlfriend as excited and comfortable about this experience as you are.
Finding eligible women
At this point, you and your partner should have verbally agreed to start looking for other women. This article is going to focus mostly on meeting those women in-person.
If you’re trying to find women online, you can use search filters for “women who are interested in women” or keywords like “bisexual” on dating sites like OKCupid. I also suggest checking alternative sites like Fetlife.
As for finding women in-person, I wouldn’t suggest trying during the daytime. I can’t see many women getting excited by a random couple approaching them about threesomes while shopping. Instead, I would focus on nighttime environments. In general, bars, dance clubs, and parties will be viable places to find open-minded women.
If you’re into any “scenes”, they will have the highest chance of these types of women. For example:
- Rock, punk, industrial, or goth clubs – This also includes BDSM clubs, burlesque shows, and clubs that have special “alternative” nights. These tend to draw more experimental women.
- Raves or festivals – Free-spirited people partaking in all sorts of feel-good substances? Easy choice.
- Gay clubs – While many gay clubs frown upon straight men, going as a couple is usually well accepted.
- Swingers clubs – These tend to cater towards the 30-50+ crowd. They also often do not have the most physically attractive people. While they may be extremely relevant, they may not have what you’re looking for. You’ll have to try for yourself and see if it’s a good fit.
Making an introduction
Now you’re both in a venue and ready to see who’s out there. You have three routes to choose from:
Letting your girlfriend approach. If you have a confident, outgoing girlfriend, this can be a great way to go. Why? Because there’s an unspoken etiquette between women in which they’re usually polite to each other from the start. Women rarely outright reject other women.
Your girlfriend can start by introducing herself and keeping it relatively platonic for the first few minutes. She can be a little playful but doesn’t necessarily need to be super flirtatious. Your girlfriend simply needs to position herself as a comfortable, engaging, and relatable girl to talk to.
From my experience, heterosexual and bisexual women become more attracted to another woman once they have a solid emotional connection. Coming off too strong initially can sometimes be intimidating, especially if they’ve never been romantic with a girl.
Once they’ve been hitting it off for 5-15 minutes, your girlfriend should bring you into the picture. All she has to say is, “I have to get back to my boyfriend but why don’t you join us?” or “Come meet my boyfriend, I think you’ll like him.”
By this point, if the other girl is already enjoying herself, she’ll be more open to meeting you.
Doing the approach yourself. Introduce yourself to a girl as you normally would. The rest of the rules still apply — you want to create physical contact, flirt, and be very playful. Building sexual attraction is critical.
By approaching the situation like this you give off a more casual hookup vibe, which is exactly what you want. Within a few minutes, you need to tell her you have a girlfriend if it hasn’t already come up. You don’t want to lead a woman on and you don’t want to waste time if she’s not cool with this idea, either.
You can ask something like, “Who are you here with?” Once she tells you, she’ll usually ask the same. You can reply, “With my girlfriend, she’s hanging out over there.”
Now this may draw some hesitation and confusion. This is where you reinforce that everything is fine and your girlfriend is fully aware of what’s going on. “My girlfriend is cool with me talking to other girls. In fact, she encourages it.”
Either then or shortly after, invite this girl to meet your girlfriend. You can say, “That reminds me — I should probably check in with her, come join me.” Or “By the way, my girlfriend would love to meet you.”
Otherwise, the most common approach would be:
Approaching as a couple. Say hello and focus on getting to know each other for a few minutes. Enjoy yourselves and laugh a little. All you want at this point is to create a friendly, relaxed dynamic. Then continue below.
Getting everybody mingling
Once everyone’s together and introduced, it’s time to ramp things up.
I wouldn’t try to hold the spotlight and be the center of attention. If the other girl starts to only focus on you and leave your girlfriend out, things can get awkward really quickly.
Instead, everyone should be engaging each other. Or, you can even let your girlfriend and the other girl do a lot of the talking. You want to make sure they’re continuing to connect.
I would openly flirt and be playful with both women. Flirting with your girlfriend can be more bold while you want to work your way up with the other girl. You still want to read her body language and make sure she’s comfortable as you escalate your flirting (compliments, intimate questions, touching). By now, many girls will have started to get the hint. If not, they will soon.
One thing I would not do is be the guy who’s trying to get them to hook up. Don’t say stuff like, “You guys should totally make out right now.” It’s not turning anyone on and it makes you seem like a horny frat boy.
I would drop in something subtle when the two girls are laughing together. For example, “Aww, you two are so adorable right now.” This reinforces you approve of them together and find it endearing.
At some point, I would give them some alone time by offering to get drinks. This is especially important if you were the one who approached the girl in the first place.
When the two girls are alone, I would suggest your girlfriend helps move things forward. She should tell the girl something like, “I can tell [your name] thinks you’re cute.” Or “My boyfriend totally has a crush on you – you’re his type.”
This is important because it basically says to the other girl that your girlfriend is happy with everything going on. Most women won’t be comfortable moving forward with anything unless they know your partner is okay with it. They don’t want to start controversy – especially if they like your girlfriend.
And with your girlfriend being vulnerable, it will often encourage the other girl to be vulnerable, too. That’s where she starts replying to your girlfriend, “Oh really? You think so.” And “I think he’s cute, too.”
After you’ve all mingled for a while and had a good time, it’s time to go to a more private location. It’s as simple as either of you telling the other girl, “Hey, we’re going to continue with some drinks back at our place – you should come along.” Or “We’re going to get out of here, why don’t you join us?”
If she accepts, this is when the real party starts.
Having a good time back at your place
You’ll still to need to work to keep the momentum up at your place. The situation may progress naturally but it helps to ensure that things go smoothly.
Be a good host and offer up a round of drinks. Alcohol gets the group more social, lowers inhibitions, and gets people thinking about sex. This isn’t necessary if drinking isn’t your thing, or you’ve already had too much. You need to make sure you’re sober enough to perform after all the time and effort you’ve invested.
At this point, it’s common for guys to try to get things started by encouraging the girls to kiss. The women will probably hesitate and trying to logically convince them will almost never work. All you’re showing these girls is how much you want this. You’re proving to them that this is really about you trying to get off and not about them.
You need to get them into a sexual mood. You need to be turning them on. And how do you do that? Sexual arousal by proxy.
We watch porn largely because it’s hot to see other people moan, touch each other, and feel pleasure. The same principle applies in-person. If you start hooking up with one of the women, you create a safe, erotic environment.
Ideally, you want to position yourself near both women. I would advise you begin with your partner. You can touch, kiss, and even massage her while both of you continue to talk to the other girl.
As this is happening, you’ll hopefully see the other girl start to become aroused. With arousal comes that tension that we want to release.
You can turn towards the other girl and start touching her. You can rest your hand gently on her leg or gently run your fingers on her arm. If she seems comfortable, you can either start massaging her or if it’s blatant that she’s ready – kiss her.
Once that intimate touch or kiss barrier is broken, you can go in between kissing both girls. You can touch both of them at the same time. Then you can bring them both close and guide them together. Once everybody is touching, the fun should continue on its own.
Congratulations, I hope you and your partner enjoy a steamy, sensual, and memorable sexual experience.
How To Get A Girlfriend
As men, we usually have periods in our lives where our only goal seems to be to spread seeds like a bee with a severe pollen addiction. But in the end, what we really end up wanting is a serious, committed and happy relationship. That’s why we have so many guys contacting us… wanting to learn how to girl a girlfriend.
Ultimately, we want to find that girl who is our perfect mate… with who we can connect on a deep level, and feel real love. And when we meet her, we want to be able to attract her and make her like us!
But that’s what often complicates things.
Men who are struggling to understand how to attract women, or get their dating life “handled”… as well as experienced players too… they find it difficult to get a girlfriend, for different reasons.
For men who have never been “good” with women, attracting a woman sexually and getting her interested is difficult — even though they have no problem making friends with women.
The player, on the other hand… he has no difficulty getting girls into bed. But he may have a hard time opening up, and dealing with the softer and more emotional aspects for finding a woman he truly likes. A woman can sense his uneasiness about this, and hesitates to commit to him.
You might not have appreciate this… but there are many players out their grieving abut the losing the relationship they really want to nice guys… just as there are less sexually successful men who envy the players and their many sex partners.
What We All Want In The End
The bottom line is… all of our efforts seem to culminate in this goal of getting a girlfriend, one way or another. That’s what it’s about — finding a special girl that we really want to be with and being able to recognize it when we see it. That seems to be why we want to sow our wild oats early and have many sexual partners: so that we will have lived out our desires, learned what we like and be ready when the right woman comes our way.
If you’re reading this, maybe you feel like you’ve tired of the wild life and you want to settle down. Or maybe you’ve found out that you want a relationship more than you want to live the bachelor lifestyle. No matter why you’re reading this, we have put together this comprehensive guide for how to get a girlfriend. The principles here will help you make sure that when you find the girl of your dreams… you’ll know how to get her and build the relationship you desire.
Principles To Get Straight Before You’ve Even Met Her:
1. Don’t Obsess Over “Getting A Girlfriend”
For many of the men we coach, one of their main hindrances is, ironically enough… their eagerness to find a relationship. They obsess over their need to have a girlfriend, demonstrating clingy and needy behavior. And when they do meet girls they like, they usually scare them away because of this. Or the girl requests an exclusively sexual relationship without a chance for romance.
They sense that the guy is moving into things too fast. And his eagerness and desperation for a more involved relationship puts them off.
Don’t be overwhelmed with the thought of “how do I get a girlfriend”. Instead, let it develop naturally as you make these changes. Because men who are obsessed with this thought clearly communicate a view of the world where they are the ones to be selected by the woman… where all they do all they can to win her favor.
If you’ve read any of our other articles, you’ll know that this kind of thinking is killer.
Women want men who feel like they are the choosers — men who select the women they want in their life. That is the mindset you yourself need to have. And it’s essential when you want to be with a sexy, vibrant or confident girl who knows her value.
2. Put Away Any Thoughts Of “The One”
The other mistake many men make is to create a relationship with the girl in their heads before one exists in real life.
We see a girl we like… and before long, we’re fantasizing about kissing, having sex, snuggling, and going on romantic dates. And we get enamored with her almost before we’ve even said “hello”.
Thus, we set off the chemicals in our brain that causes infatuation. And we’re convinced that she is that one perfect girl we’ve been dreaming of. Therefore, we focus all our attention on that girl… ignore all our other options… and become very needy indeed.
This effectively kills all chances of something happening.
Rest assured — your mind is deluding you. Whatever qualities the object of your desire may possess… there are thousands of girls out there who would create exactly the same feelings. There is no “one” girl destined for us, but many possibilities.
There are 7 billion people on Earth, and 3.5 billion of them are women. Of those, 2 billion are potentially datable. You do the math. Getting a girlfriend is easily attainable, if you have the right outlook and techniques.
Set aside your obsession, and focus instead on creating abundance in your life. Rather than being a serial monogamous dater, focusing your energy on one girl at a time… start meeting more women, and go on many dates with many different women. (Our article, “How To Ask A Girl Out”, covers this.)
When you’re constantly meeting new women… whether they turn out to be your type or not, you’ll start to see yourself as a man with choices. You’ll naturally become choosier, by learning what it is you truly desire in a woman.
When the right type of woman does come along, you’ll recognize it right away. But also, you’ll know that there are several good women out there who you could be with. And this will stop you from acting needy or clingy.
When you have that calmness in yourself, a woman will notice it. And she’ll relax as well, making you a lot more attractive in her eyes. This makes it much easier for you to take your relationship in your desired direction.
Building A Relationship
Now we’ve covered those basics, let’s delve more deeply into the matter.
Assuming you’ve met the girl you want to make your girlfriend… here are our main guidelines for helping you avoid it ending up as just sex, or, having it fizzle out.
Don’t Sleep With Her Super Quickly…
When women are looking for someone to date, they want to feel secure that he wants them for more than just sex. Therefore, when women have sex with someone on the first date, they’ll often feel that things went too far too fast. They won’t want to see you again, labeling it as a one-night stand. She’ll also ask herself how many girls you sleep with on the first night.
You run the risk of her labeling you as a “player”.
Instead, wait a little while to sleep with her. You don’t necessarily have to follow the “three date rule” or anything. But allow some time for you to both get to know each other well. And let her know that you’re interested in the possibility of having the relationship develop into something more serious that a mere fling. She’ll also be more comfortable. And the social pressure of having sex will decrease, as she feels more comfortable with you.
… But Don’t Wait Too Long Either
Don’t wait too long though. Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned. And a girl who is interested in you and thinks that you don’t want to have sex with her will be furious indeed. It may also lead her to assume you don’t have the guts. She will lose interest.
Of course, if sparks are flying and it feels like the stars and the moon have aligned to facilitate your meeting… then having sex on the first date isn’t wrong. In fact, many relationships start out that way.
However, experience has told us that holding out for a while makes the setting much more romantic, and helps a good deal to build a solid foundation.
What’s the moral of the story? Keep it in your pants… for a little while.
Get Out Of The Bedroom
After all that advice about taking her to the bedroom… it might seem strange that I’m now telling you to take her out of it. However, many budding relationships fail to develop further due to the sex becoming the main aspect.
Sex creates a strong physical attraction. But for the emotional connection and getting to know each other, you need more than that.
Take her on dates where you can be alone and learn more about each other. This is very important, if you want to make her your girlfriend. Invite her to open up to you. Learn what her passions are, and see how you connect. (This is the only way to know if you would even enjoy a relationship with her).
Share adventures together, and make memories. Cook together. Go to a gig. Take a walk in the forest. Visit a theme park with adrenaline-filled rides. Do a picnic. Take her to a rave party. Discuss things you could do together in the future — like traveling to places you have both wanted to visit.
This is a lot of fun. But it also creates a sort of bubble for you two — a feeling of “your world”, where you do things together and share the experiences.
Do Something Adventurous With Her
Be outgoing and adventurous. It’s a great personality to develop. And it will undoubtedly help you get a girlfriend.
One especially good thing to do is… take her to do something adventurous and unique that she has never done before, like going to a Reptile Park, for overcoming her fear of holding snakes or spiders. It may sound weird or frightening. But she will remember it as an exciting experience. And she will link it to you in her mind, which helps make a strong connection between the two of you. (Obviously it doesn’t have to be snakes or other slithery creatures. Just something fun and unique.)
Don’t Rush Into Things Too Quickly
When we have a good thing going… mechanisms inside our mind see the possibility of a sure-fire stab at propagating our DNA, and become a little overzealous.
Because of this, we have a tendency to rush into things. We try to bring her to meet our family… our pets… or our collection of Star Wars memorabilia. We might even ask her to move in with us pretty prematurely.
When things are going well and everything feels so right… it’s hard to think rationally at times, even though we are ashamed of our eagerness in retrospect when the infatuation chemicals have worn off. It’s important to remember that these things can be a serious step for many people — even if you don’t think so at the time. Rushing into things like this too quickly will often scare the girl away.
When it comes to building a relationship, slow and steady wins the race.
If the girl likes you, she will keep seeing you. You’ll have plenty of time to get to those stages — and, just as important, to see if you are truly compatible. Focus on really getting to know her yourself first. There is no need to involve your family of any sorts for at least a few months. And moving in shouldn’t be considered until a year or so.
If you want to take things further, the best point to start with is to invite her out to meet your friends. But let that be an invitation, not a demand. Make it an open invitation, which she can accept when she feels comfortable making things more official. Until then, just enjoy your time with her.
If you’re right for one another, things will progress in good time.
Maintain A Life That Doesn’t Involve Her
This is a crucial principle to remember — both for the sake of your relationship and yourself.
When two people fall in love, they tend to be all over each other. And to friends, it sometimes seems that the two are joined at the hip. I’m sure you’ve known couples that do everything together. Or you have a best friend with whom you’re dying to spend some alone time — without his beloved coming along every single time.
If so, you can see why you’d want to avoid that yourself.
When you are infatuated… your priorities change, and all you want to do is to be with your loved one. But over time, this can become suffocating and your social life takes the hit. This becomes especially evident whenever a relationship ends and the man has lost contact with most of his friends and has to start again from scratch.
I’m saying “man” for a reason. Women tend to keep in close touch with their girlfriends, and men keep hitting on her all time — keeping her social motor going. We men, on the other hand… we often become complacent, and forget to nurture our social life outside the relationship. Even with our best friends.
Be careful. If you let your social life go, you’ll become more and more dependent on your girlfriend for socialization. And when this happens, her attraction to you will diminish and the relationship will quickly become unhealthy.
If she senses that you are giving up your social life for her when starting a relationship, she’ll be gone quickly. No girl respects a man who gives up his life for her.
Your personality… your hobbies… and the life you led when you met her… this is what attracted her in the first place. If you give it all up for her… then what’s left of the man you were when she fell in love with you?
Also… keeping a social life outside of the relationship helps to keep it fresh and lively, and lets you put it into perspective as an aspect of your life, rather that it being your entire life. You’ll return to each other invigorated and rejuvenated. And you’ll be more appreciative of your partner that ever before.
This is key in helping you get a girlfriend — and keeping her.
Make Sure She Understands That You Want A Relationship
She must know that you see her as a potential girlfriend — and not as a mere friend, or sex-friend. After kissing or having had sex, this is more obvious. But before that, you should take care to remind her at times that this is a man talking to a woman, with all that that entails.
We have seen, experienced and heard of many cases where a man thinks he is dating a woman — while she has seen it as a completely friendly relationship. When this finally becomes apparent to the man as well, he is understandably very hurt.
Make sure to tell her that you see her as more than just a friend. And make it apparent through your communication that you are a sexual creature. Spike the conversation with sexual remarks, and state your intent — especially if you feel she’s stringing you along as a friend. (Our article, “How To Talk To Girls”, covers this in more detail.)
Make sure you’ve kissed her by the end of the second or third date — or that you’ve at least tried. If you wait too long, she may misinterpret your intentions. Or she’ll lose interest, thinking that you don’t have the guts to make a move. Then it’ll be game over.
(If you feel nervous “making a move”, then that’s the first thing to fix. Our article, “How To Kiss A Girl”, will help you with this.)
If things go awry, and she doesn’t reciprocate your advances or feelings, don’t act needy or lose your confidence. Because this will put you in the friend zone. You’ll hurt yourself, and it will do you no good.
If she doesn’t reciprocate, then clearly she is not right for you. Why would you want to be with someone who doesn’t want to be with you?
Return to first principles. Remember, there are countless girls out there who fit your criteria. Get back in the game. Because as your dating skills get better, things will only get easier.
A Final Word Of Advice
When you apply these tips and concepts to your life… you’ll stop worrying about how to get a girlfriend. And, ironically, your power to get the relationship you want will rise dramatically too. However, keep your wits about you.
And remember, this stuff isn’t set in stone. Forming a relationship is not a set of rigid sequences. Rather, it’s a rocky road with unexpected turns and twists — and it’s different for everyone. The steps presented here will definitely help you. But they are guidelines, not rules. Life is never predictable. Therefore, do the best with the information you have, and make the best choices based on the situation.
Nonetheless, it’s best to gather as much knowledge as you can. Because the more you know, the more prepared you’ll be for any situation — and the easier you’ll find it to attract girls, and make one of them your girlfriend.
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How To Get A Girlfriend When You Think You Can’t Get One
I’m going to be direct, guys: Nothing good comes easy, and finding the right girlfriend tops the list.
You’re just not going to stumble upon her simply by snapping your fingers. Great things come to those who work hard for them. You snooze, and you will lose.
Opportunity usually presents itself when you least expect it. Being prepared to put yourself out there, having what it takes to win her attention and knowing how to use it will be key.
If there’s one thing I’ve learned about dating, it’s that meeting the perfect someone who really rocks your world can’t be planned…but that moment makes for the most exciting part of the process.
It takes time and effort to find that unique combo of everything you’re attracted to in a girl: looks, personality, overall appearance and her «this is what I’m all about» package (aka unique qualities, interests, hobbies, friends, family and the life she’s made for herself in general).
When it happens and you do finally meet her, two things have to go down: One, you sure as hell want the feeling to be mutual, and two, you must have what it takes to not only catch her attention, but also hold on to it.
Finding a girlfriend should be fun, and it certainly isn’t rocket science. So stop thinking about it too much; it will seriously stress you out for no reason whatsoever.
Approach the situation with an open mind. If you sense any sort of attraction coming from her end, then chances are looking very good that she’s totally crushing on you, too.
The thought of having a girlfriend — that special someone on your side who’s the real MVP and 100 percent team YOU — should also be motivating and make you really happy. Keep in mind that she will be the person you’ll be sharing a lot of your life with, and she’ll be opening up hers to you, too.
For all of my guys out there thinking they can’t get a girlfriend, here’s my advice for you: Cut loose any strings that are tying you down because it’s all unnecessary baggage. Life is way too short to simply wish, wonder and daydream about what could be instead of making it happen IRL.
Whether someone hurt you from a previous relationship you’ve been in or you’re fearful of getting rejected, break down that barrier and start fresh. The time is now. You’re a great guy with much to offer. So what are you waiting for?
Put yourself out there, and you may even surprise yourself. Believe it or not, most gals have the same insecurities that you do. Get over them, or you will live your life in neutral.
Here are seven tips on how to get a girlfriend — even when you think you can’t.
Have a positive mindset.
This is honestly one of the most important steps. If you keep telling yourself you’re not going to get a girlfriend, odds are, you probably won’t get one. Negativity is a deal breaker in most situations…especially when you’re trying to impress her.
Bring on all of the positive vibes.
I’m a firm believer in if you want something badly enough, it will come to you. Needless to say, an attraction you have with a girl must be mutual…and you have to work for it.
Don’t put yourself down in the dumps, because you won’t find your potential girlfriend chilling down there.
Negativity will get you nowhere fast, in any situation life presents. Karma is a real thing, bros. She can be a total bitch and kick you where it hurts if you let her. She can also be your best friend if you play your cards right.
Embrace the girlfriend situation with a positive attitude, and positive things will come your way.
Be confident AF.
I cannot stress this enough: There’s nothing sexier than a guy who’s confident. This has been a consistent bullet point in my advice articles because it’s just so freaking important.
Every girl wants a guy who believes in himself. If you don’t believe in yourself, neither will she.
A guy who takes the initiative to make that first move is HOT AF. Be motivated, and go after what you want at full throttle. If you’re attracted to her… Ask. Her. Out. It’s really that simple.
Need I repeat: confident AF = hot AF = A+ boyfriend material.
Which leads to my next point…
Don’t let the fear of getting rejected control you.
Babe Ruth once said, «Never let the fear of striking out keep you from playing the game.»
Take control and confront anything that’s holding you back, whether it’s the fear of rejection or another insecurity. At least you can say you took your best shot and played the game. Everyone has imperfections, and she certainly is no exception.
It would be a bummer to look back on life with regret that you didn’t make that first move or take a relationship you cared about to the next level. Don’t give up on a girl that easily. You probably don’t meet girls who stand out to you on a daily basis, so seize the opportunity.
You deserve better than missing out on something awesome, and so does she.
It’s this simple… striking out is still more impressive than sitting on the sidelines.
And here’s a little secret for you: Girls can be just as intimidated as you are to take that next step. We’ve been hurt. We second-guess things like crazy, and we wonder what the heck is going on in that head of yours! But we want our man to step up to the plate and show us we are worthy of the chase — and the catch.
Let her know you’re interested in taking things to the next level.
If you’ve just started talking to a girl or gone out on a bunch of dates and it’s time to define your status, the fear can be one in the same.
If she has committed to you throughout the talking and dating phases, she’s OBVIOUSLY interested in you. If she seems genuinely excited when you ask her out on the first couple of dates, things are looking favorable. So pick up on the signs, guys! I really have faith in you with this one, and you should, too.
If she’s been flirting with you and dropping obvious (or not so obvious) hints that she thinks you’re sexy AF, ask her out on a date, and see where things go! She may not be forward, but that doesn’t mean she’s not interested. These are all crucial steps that lead to the ultimate goal: getting a girlfriend.
You have to keep her in the know with where you stand. There’s nothing worse than the girl being on a totally different page than you because you are not communicating. You don’t want to miss out on a potentially spectacular relationship because you waited too long…and she met someone else in the process.
Don’t be fooled by anyone who tries to talk you out of having a girlfriend.
You do you because when it comes down to it, people who don’t have your best interests at hand…well, f*ck them.
As I mentioned earlier, you can’t time when that right someone will walk into your life. It’s easy to say, “I want to be single until I’m 28 or 30, then I’ll find a serious girlfriend.” Well, good luck with that.
When opportunity knocks, answer the damn door! If a friend tells you not to let this guy or girl in, you need to tell that friend to mind his or her own business. This is your life, and your future…not your friend’s.
I’m not saying the girl you meet will end up being there for the rest of your life. But if there’s something there, you owe it to the both of you to explore the possibility of an extraordinary relationship. Opportunity doesn’t knock too often.
It’s OK to take baby steps.
If you’re intimidated by having to ask her out on a date, start with asking her out for a few drinks during the workweek. It’s a lot more casual. The worst that can happen is that she says no, right? YOLO… no harm done.
Trust me, if she wants to take this a step further — as in a «legit» date — you will definitely feel the vibe. She’ll most likely get the point across by throwing compliments and expressing how much fun she had. She will enjoy talking and texting, and so will you.
Similarly, if she’s totally not feeling it, you’ll be able to tell that from her responses and reactions as well.
There is nothing about this scenario that should be awkward or embarrassing. You went for drinks, and that’s it. Things didn’t pan out the way you thought they would, but life goes on. No big deal, right?
Know that the «girlfriend stage» will come naturally.
Don’t put pressure on yourself to place a label on things just yet. Baby steps, remember?
A relationship is a natural transition. When things are going good, they usually progress at a pace that you are both comfortable and happy with. You will both want more of a commitment, and guess what? Before you know it, you’ll have that wonderful someone you’ve been waiting for.
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20 Steps To Make Her Choose You
You’re about to discover how to get a girlfriend by becoming her obvious choice, so the girl you like chooses you over all the other guys chasing her.
There’s no wishy washy bullsh*t here like “be more confident” or “talk to more girls”.
Just 20 proven steps you can start using right now to attract the girl you like and make her your girlfriend.
So if you’re sick of being single and want a girlfriend to wake up next to every morning then keep reading…
How To Get A Girlfriend Part 1. Meeting Girls
Stop trying to get a girlfriend. The first step to getting a girlfriend is to stop trying. Instead go into every new interaction you have with women expecting nothing in return. You’ll be surprised by how “not giving a shit” about the outcome makes girls chase you.
You see, most guys will do everything they can to please girls into liking them, but guys who couldn’t care less about impressing random girls stand out like a rose amongst thorns.
Women want a challenge, so when a guy comes along who isn’t afraid to speak his mind and disagree with women it shows he’s a guy worth talking to.
Make her notice you. Wear items of clothing and jewellery that attract women and start conversations. Leather jackets, jewellery and tailored suits are a great place to start. You could even go as far as getting that tattoo you’ve always wanted 😉
Anything you can do to mix things up from how you present yourself will work wonders at attracting a whole new wave of female attention.
Already have a special girl in mind? If you’ve got her number check out my best advice on what to text a girl a girl you like. (You’ll discover how to keep her hooked and get a date).
Get ready to approach her. Before you approach her get rid of any other excuses that are stopping you in your tracks, for example, assuming she won’t be interested in you if you’ve never had a girlfriend.
Limiting beliefs like that will get you nowhere.
Here’s how to re-write some common negative excuses with positive reasons to TAKE ACTION!
“It’s no use talking to her, she won’t be interested in me” = “I should go talk to her she looks bored”
“She’s out of my league” = “I wonder if she’s cool enough to hang out with?”
This will help you approach girls you like with positivity and you’ll naturally become an extremely attractive guy to be around.
If you prefer video learning we recommend this video:
(You can learn how to turn any “cold” girl you know into your girlfriend)
Approach her with confidence. Now that you’re ready, it’s time to approach her. Smile, relax your body language and approach in a non confrontational way like you’d do when you’re in Wallmart asking a shelf stacker where the butter’s at.
As you talk to her watch that your vocal inflection isn’t too high and annoying like you need something, for example when a beggar says “excuse me, can you spare any change???” No one can stand needy requests from strangers they’ve just met, especially “excuse me”. That’s a big attraction killer right there.
Instead use a neutral or downwards vocal inflection. If you have a voice like Vin Diesel then you’re in luck 😉
As you’re talking to her make sure you keep smiling and lean a little backwards so you’re not all up in her face. Hold eye contact and tell her why you simply had to come say hello.
The best way to do this is with a genuine compliment.
Give her a genuine compliment. Tell her exactly why you approached her and be as specific if you can. Use the first think you noticed about her that attracted you. Perhaps it’s her her cute smile, her dimples, or if you see her a lot maybe this time her hair is tied back for the first time.
If she’s a stranger and you meet her in the day, “Hey, I know this is random but I just walked past you and thought I have to go back and talk to that girl.”
But if you meet her in a bar there’s no need to mention any awkwardness. Just “Hello” or “Hi, I saw you from across the bar.” is enough 😉
Tease her. Teasing is the easiest way to create sexual tension between you and a girl you like. Start teasing girls on a regular basis.
For example, if a girl says she likes cats you can say “Wait…you’re a cat lady? How many cats do you have? If it’s more than 9 we’re not gonna work out”.
In the split second it takes for her to realise you’re just teasing (and not insulting her) she experiences a massive feeling of euphoric relief. That feeling is usually accompanied by laughter and maybe even a punch on the arm for you if you’re lucky 😉
The more you tease women and give them that little tension to relief “high”, the more they’ll become attracted, because when you fearlessly tease women it sends them a subconscious message that your genes rock.
It shows her you’re a not afraid of risking confrontation and that she can rely on you to stick to your beliefs and tell the truth. You’re a protector not a pushover.
Opportunities for teasing will happen naturally when you stick to your opinions and stop fake agreeing with women to please them all the time.
Always be looking out for cute things she says or does so you can point them out as being cute or funny.
Focus on her for conversation. Listen to her and make her the main subject of your conversation. You’ll create countless opportunities for teasing her and you’ll never be lost for conversation topics.
It’s no secret that girls like guys who listen to them so give her what she wants: Your ears.
When the focus is on her you leave much less room for error from your side, plus it gives you plenty of opportunities to tease her since she’ll hand deliver material to you on a silver platter.
Why did you choose this table? No, clearly you chose it because you saw me sitting here!
What brought you to the park? Oh, I thought you were rummaging for food in the bins!
Why do you hate dogs? She must be a cat lady. Assume she has twelve cats.
As soon as you disagree with something or find something she says cute you can say “I don’t think you and me are going to get along”, or something to that effect.
She’ll walk away from the conversation thinking “that guy was so much fun” when actually all she was doing was talking about herself. But remember, you mustn’t let her walk away until you get her number!
Get her number. When you feel like the conversation has reached it’s peak, make your excuses for leaving and get her number.
Even if you’re in a bar and she’s not going anywhere it’s always good to walk away for a bit to go join your mates and give her some space so she rejoin her friends and tell them all about you.
Chances are later in the night she’ll come find you again and you can take things further.
This is what’s known as the push-pull effect. It’s always important to pull back a little in any fresh interaction so she doesn’t get worried you’re never going to leave.
To get her number simply hand her your phone and tell her you’ll text her.
Part 2. Going On Dates
Ask her out on a date. Don’t try to achieve everything in one text. Build her curiosity, comfort and excitement about meeting up with you first, then ask her out on a date.
An easy way to naturally steer the conversation towards a date is to insinuate the idea of a date first.
Perhaps you meet her in a coffee shop and she’s a coffee addict? You can then mention some new boutique coffee shop that’s opened up in town.
Then simply put the two things together an suggest it’s time you go check out that new coffee shop together, e.g.
Texting has its own set of rules and etiquette, but here’s a few important pointers to keep you on track when you’re texting a girl you like:
– Send it and forget it – don’t overthink things. After you text her go about your day and don’t double text if she takes ages to reply.
– Keep it positive – if your text doesn’t make you smile or LOL then don’t send it.
– Be playful – texting is for flirting and setting up dates, not for deep or boring conversations. She wants a lover not a friend.
– End the conversation – Always end the conversation when it reaches its peak. It’s better to leave her on the edge of her seat than push things too far and risk becoming her text buddy.
For more texting tips I wrote a full article on how to text a girl without her losing interest here.
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Where to go on a date. Choose a location that is relaxed, informal and has activities you can get physically intimate with. Avoid dinner dates for the first date. They’re awkward, expensive and way too formal.
If however she insists on dinner then make sure you either suggest splitting the bill, or say “I’ll get this and you can get the drinks after.” If she’s big on equal rights she won’t be able to say no! 😉
So what kind of place is good for a first date?
Zoos are great because you never run out of conversation topics and things to do. She’ll grab you when she sees a cute animal or a scary one and after you’ve seen dozens of different animals it feels like you’ve travelled the world together, so there’s this distorted sense of time like you’ve known each other for ages.
Get involved in feeding the animals, giraffes, elephants and goats. It’s a hell of a lot of fun and if she’s comfortable around you she’ll grab you a lot which feels amazing!
Other great locations for intimacy include Hookah bars, bars in general, arcades and ten pin bowling.
Cinema is ok for a second date but not for a first date. You can’t talk, it’s awkward as f*ck and pretty tormenting because all you can think about is making a move and if nothing’s happened by the time the credits roll you walk out feeling like a lead balloon.
On the date start by complimenting her. Women can spend hours choosing a dress, putting on make up and doing their hair for the first date. She’s done this all for you don’t forget to show your appreciation with an honest compliment.
“Wow…you look amazing”.
Have high expectations. Having high expectations of people communicates to them that you are high status and not a pushover. This is incredibly attractive to women because it shows her you respect and love yourself. You are sure of yourself and adamant about getting what you want.
A great way to reveal this attractive trait is to call her out if she’s late for the date, for example:
She’ll respect you more for it and make a mental note to never do it again. She’ll probably even make up for her lateness with a kiss later!
A high value male will also be a true gentleman and treat a lady like a lady and be respectful of others. Help her sit down, open doors and overdo it in a chivalrous way. Show you care about her and others by tipping waiters or bar staff.
To get respect you must earn respect.
Conversation topics to avoid on the date. Avoid these 7 conversation topics on the date at all costs. The main reason these 7 topics are so destructive is because they kill the mood and spark debate not chemistry.
Talking about exes or girls who’ve slipped through your fingers – If you’re negative about past experiences with women you’ll sound bitter. If you’re positive you’ll sound like you’re still pining for someone. In either case it’s best you avoid talk of “lovers lost” completely.
Bragging about how rich you are – Only gold diggers want to know how many cars you have. Quality women will see bragging for what it is: a shallow way of proving yourself to please people into liking you.
Complaints about your job – Any talk of work is usually boring and negative. Oh and keep any resentment for your job to yourself. No-one wants to hear it.
Religion – Don’t go there unless your only objective is to become a celibate monk.
Money – Save it for the bank. Instead of money talk about your goals in life.
Politics – Politics and hot topics lead to heated discussion and debates. Do you want to debate and fall out or do you want to gyrate and make out? See what I did there? 😉
Negative and toxic relationships – Again, don’t bring drama out with you on the date, leave talk of toxic relationships in the trash can where they belong.
“Where do you see this going?” – First dates aren’t about signing contracts and locking down the future terms of your relationship. They’re about living in the moment, so save questions that put her in an awkward position like “what are you looking for?”.
Watch this video if you want to get up to speed quickly:
(With this you can get a girlfriend in 2 weeks)
Make her like you by being yourself. You may not realise this but the reason you’ve been stuck with how to get a girlfriend is because you are not yourself around the women you’re attracted to.
let me repeat that:
You are not yourself around the women you’re attracted to.
We’ve addressed a lot of things that turn women off and one of the biggest “A-HA!” moments you’ve probably had whilst reading this article is that you’ve always been trying to please women into liking you.
You’ve avoided confrontation, you’ve avoided teasing and you have never felt comfortable about expressing your true burning sexual desire for the girls you’re attracted to.
Now that you finally understand this the seas will part, water will turn into wine and you will walk on water through the leggy gates of heaven and into the land of milk and honey!
Flirt with her physically. Once you stop worrying about the outcome with every girl you meet, relax and actually have some fun, physical flirting will start happening naturally!
Earlier I recommended date locations that organically create opportunities for physical contact.
If you’re worried about a girl’s reaction to you touching her, start with these baby steps:
– Brush something out of her hair but purposefully graze her neck with the back of your hand
– If you’re sitting next to her, rest your hand next to her nearest leg and touch her outer thigh with your little finger
– High five her and lock fingers for a split second then release her
– Playfully hit her on the arm or lightly push her away from you whenever she teases you
If her reaction is positive you can increase the time you touch her, if her response is negative then pull away and try again later.
You’ll know she’s comfortable about physical contact when she starts giving it back to you, like leaning on your arm, grabbing your hand, playfully pushing you, etc.
These are all clear signs she’s both comfortable around you and most importantly… attracted!
Once you’re damn sure she’s flirting back it’s time to seal the deal and release all the sexual tension with a kiss.
Part 3. Closing The Deal
Make a move and kiss her. Women want to be overwhelmingly desired, not rationally considered, so as soon as you start reading the signs she’s into you it’s your job to make a move and kiss her.
Here are some other signs to look for just to be sure you won’t get rejected when you make your move:
– She plays with her hair when she’s talking to you
– She keeps looking at your lips
– She laughs at all your jokes (even if they’re not funny)
– She leans in closely to hear you speak, rather than you leaning into her
Trust me, these are all bright green lights she wants you to kiss her!
When you make your move don’t force it, let it happen when there’s a brief pause in the conversation and you’re both gazing into each others eyes.
The way to know when the moment is right is when you’re both smiling, you’re in very close proximity to each other (maybe even already touching) and her eyes quickly dart down from your eyes to your lips.
Even if she rejects you the first time she’ll respect you for having the balls to try and will probably accept your advances the second time you try.
That’s the thing, a lot of guys give up after getting rejected the first time. This is a classic rookie mistake because she probably did want to kiss you but you either read the moment wrong and forced it, she wasn’t prepared and it took her by surprise or she felt uncomfortable about kissing in public.
Whatever the case you’ll get better at reading the situation the more times you try.
Do not try to lock down another date. At the end of first date kiss her on the cheek and say “tonight was fun, we should do it again sometime”.
Keep her hooked by making her wonder what you mean by “sometime”.
Women want a challenge just as much as we do, so don’t give too much away, especially in the early stages of dating, otherwise you’ll kill the thrill of the chase and she’ll quickly lose interest.
Keep her hooked between dates. Keep her hooked between dates by not always being available, making her wonder about you and flirting with the future.
When you’re too available and text her back immediately every time it’ll make her think you have nothing else going on in your life.
Although she may appear upset or pissed at you she secretly does not want you to put her first, especially when you are only “sort of dating” and not invested emotionally in a relationship yet, e.g.
The less available you are, the more curious she’ll get and rather than answering a girl’s questions “matter of fact-ly” you should aim to respond in a playful way that keeps her curious about you, e.g.
The more you keep her wondering about you the more excited she will be about going on another date with you.
This is exactly how to get a girl totally and utterly obsessed with you.
By remaining jokey and essentially disqualifying yourself from anything serious you will keep her wondering about you:
Because expressing your emotional attachment to a girl too early on is a sure fire way to get friend-zoned.
Don’t get me wrong, It’s ok tell a girl you love her and miss her when you’re finally together, but NEVER in the early stages of dating.
That’s because women will run a mile if they sense you are more emotionally attached to them than they are to you.
If you want to learn how to get a girlfriend easily watch this:
The way to show a girl how much you appreciate her – without revealing your emotions and scaring her away – is to instead show your sexual appreciation for her.
I miss you = Can’t stop thinking about how hot you looked in that black dress. What delightful number do you plan to wear on our next encounter?
I can’t stop thinking about you = Is it weird that a the back of a Renault Megan just made me think about how amazing your bum looked last night?
I want to see you again soon = So when am I going to reunited with your sexy ass? Friday is looking good
I like you = You impressed me last night to the point where I’d actually consider sharing needles with you in my crack den.
I love you = I think I could have fun in HELL with you
For more tips on texting a girl between dates check out this article I wrote that covers everything in full detail.
Make it official. When you’re dating a girl you really like, it’s easy to fall into the “let’s solidify things” trap and try to verbally make things official.
Here’s how it works:
You start to like a girl, so you want to spend more time with her. As your feelings grow for her, so too does your attachment to that future with her.
You really want to make her your girlfriend, so much so, in fact, that you start to get nervous and insecure around her. And you start to feel a little possessive.
And you start looking for ways to “lock down” the future. You try to get her to commit to plans… you subtly hint at the strength of your feelings for her… maybe you even come out and ask her how she feels about you.
I probably don’t need to tell you that NONE of this is attractive to a girl.
Yet it’s weird, because when you like a girl, it feels very natural to do this stuff.
So what’s the solution?
Well, it’s simple, but paradoxical.
When you’re with her, you focus on having as MUCH fun as you can while you’re together… and NOT trying to confirm anything or lock anything down.
Think about it: if you have tons of fun the first time you hang out with someone… wouldn’t you want to see them again?
And if it just kept going like that – where you had a great time every time you hung out – wouldn’t it be easy to end up in a relationship with them?
But if they were a nervous wreck the whole time, and tried to PUSH you into spending more time with them… the only way you’d do it would be out of guilt.
And sorry to say it, but guilt doesn’t get girlfriends.
So always remember to live in the moment and focus on smiling, and putting a smile on her face, when you’re together.
You can flirt with the idea of future meet-ups but don’t try to lock her down when you’re with her. Simply add the word “sometime” to keep it open ended.
“we should totally rent motorbikes and ride down to that secret beach sometime”.
After you’ve been on a few dates, becoming boyfriend and girlfriend should come naturally. Never force it.
Let your confidence grow naturally with experience. Before you go out and use this guide to get the girlfriend of your dreams, there is one more important thing I need to mention about how to naturally develop confidence.
It’s no secret that confidence is like crack cocaine to women.
That’s why I must urge you to take action and put everything you’ve just read into practice, because your confidence will develop naturally after you start:
– Assuming every girl is interested in you
– Standing up for yourself
– Taking risks
– …And flirting more with girls you’re attracted to
The Next Step (If you already have one special girl in mind)
Do you already have one special girl in mind?
And would you like to know how to start turning her into your girlfriend RIGHT NOW?
In the video on the Next Page you’ll learn how to turn her into your girlfriend.
All it takes is three simple steps…
Click the image below to go to the Next Page – Step Two – The Solution:
Wrapping it up
It was incredibly fun putting this “how to get a girlfriend” guide together. I hope you get a lot of value from it and use it to get the girlfriend of your dreams.
Rome wasn’t built in a day, so if you’re serious about getting a girlfriend you have to get your priorities right because your main concern should not be about how you desperately need a girlfriend.
You must commit yourself to something far, FAR more important than that:
Because as soon as you start putting yourself first and stop putting other people on a pedestal, stop letting people cross the line with you and stop giving a sh*t about what others think, the girls you desire will become naturally drawn to you.
You’ll start giving off the vibe that you don’t need women to make your life complete. You’ll take more risks, find approaching and talking to girls less daunting and won’t worry about the consequences.
You’ll begin to understand that getting a girlfriend is not the most important thing in the world, in fact it’s more like an added bonus to your already awesome life.
Women are drawn to people who believe in themselves. Who know what they want. Who live a life they are proud of and don’t let others dictate their actions and decisions.
None of this requires you to become an entirely different person.
All it requires is knowing who you are, what you want and going after it.
That’s how you get ahead in life and that’s how to get a girlfriend.
How To Get A Girlfriend In College: PROVEN TIPS AND TRICKS
Ever wonder how to get a girlfriend in college?
Wonder no more because here’s how!
Whether you are just a player or looking to seriously get a girl forever in college, there are proven strategies that will help you get there pronto.
Let’s start with a few struggles men seen to encounter getting the girl in college.
University Prime experts uncover a few obstacles guys face when it comes to getting that special girl.
How To Get A Girlfriend In College
Often guys naturally get nervous around the opposite sex. With some men it’s just a few butterflies and others get nailed with the sweats, stuttering, and the inability to stop shaking.
Nerves are a good sign in general. Just means you care about what’s going on in front of you. However, if you let your imagination go crazy and get the better of you, then you’re not going to do so well with the ladies.
Mind over matter gents!
FOCUS on what you want, what you think will happen. Keep it positive and realistic and you’ll do just fine.
Confidence is super sexy – Just saying.
Don’t Be Afraid To Approach Girls
The fear of failure will paralyze you. If you let your brain tell you that you’re going to screw up then you’re in big trouble.
Rejection is a part of life. It’s a factor everyone faces or everyone would be with everyone!
The minute you accept the fact that failure is a part of life, one step close to winning the lottery, that’s when your’e going to get the girl you want.
You have it in you to overcome this. Tell yourself that and just do it!
Don’t Just Want That “One” Girl – Period
Truth is, if you are focused solely on one gal just because, chances are pretty good you’re not going to get her.
Think of all the fish in the sea here.
The second you open your mind to other women, that’s when it all happens.
Understand, there are always going to be “hotter,” “better” girls out there. Go out with a few of them and eventually you’ll figure out what you’re looking for then you can get a little more selective.
This isn’t like it was a hundred years ago, where you put a crazy amount of effort into courting Sally from the next farm over.
The only reason you see one girl as special is because that’s what you believe. Just sucks when you can’t get that one girl you want for a whole whack of reasons.
Let it go…
Open the door to more and you’ll do just fine.
Don’t Get Stuck On What’s The Best Route To Snag Women?
Think about it for a second?
This is a totally pointless question because it does not have an answer. The best route for you to get women is to be that guy that everyone likes. Open up the door to being social, genuine and sincere and the girls will come.
Want Your Ex Back?
If you want the take action route to truly get your ex back you need to start making changes and keep in just enough contact to make her see how fabulously you are changing.
Change IS good.
Take a second to ponder the fact she broke up with you because she wasn’t happy with something. So that’s not ever going to change unless you change your ways. Makes sense right?
Keep in mind, you ultimately shouldn’t have to change who you are for anyone. A little WANTED fine-tuning is fine. But you’ve got to draw the line at that.
How To Get Her Number
Of course there are zillions of routes to get a gals number but they really aren’t your concern.
It’s not about getting the number, it’s about getting a rock solid number. If you really want a gal, you’ve got to put some time and effort into it.
You need to charm and impress her and create an attraction, then dive in for the kiss.
After you get that off the block, you need to simply ask her for her number. If you are genuine and sincere you WILL get it – Pinky swear promise.
Best Opening Line
Ask Men experts say the opening line determines whether you win or lose in the girl department.
The best opening line you can give a girl is to be yourself and make sure you are NOT using cheesy one-liners.
Simply introduce yourself and ask her how she is doing.
It really doesn’t get any easier than that.
Less is always better when you are looking to grab a girl hook, line and sinker.
How To Get To The Next Step
Okay, if you aren’t willing to make your sexual interests known, you’re going to wind up in the friend zone. Totally sucky but true.
Beware that women don’t always pay attention to the fine details. In other words, they aren’t looking for more than friends unless you show them, clearly.
Do you understand what I’m trying to say?
Bottom line, if you don’t show them clearly what you want, they’re going to assume friendship.
Boys, this is where you need to step up to the plate and go for it or don’t. Tell her you like her and would like to be more than friends.
Straight up is always the best route.
It’s way better to find out sooner than later right?
What’s The Perfect Moment To Slip In For The Killer Kiss?
Newsflash – There IS no perfect time for that, “till death do you part” kiss. What I’ve learned is sometimes you can go in straight away and win. Other times, you’ve got to play it a little more conservative and warm a girl up for few dates.
My thinking…If you totally like this girl, why not try and sneak one in with the first encounter? Catch her a little off guard for all the right reasons?
Stop her naturally during a conversation and plant one on her.
She’s either into you are she’s not and it’s best to find out sooner than later. You will be able to tell fast from her reaction whether you’re gong to have a “next” encounter or not.
Where To Go For The First Date
Again there is no perfect place but if you want to get to know her better, drinks are a good start. You just don’t want to commit to making the first date too long, just in case it totally sucks. So dinner and a movie is a dumb move on a first date.
Either got for a coffee or drinks and keep it short and sweet.
If you both want more, that’s great! If you don’t, that’s okay too. At least you haven’t wasted a whole evening figuring that out.
Makes sense right?
How To Handle Calls And Text Messages She Ignores
First step is to relax and take a deep breath. Don’t automatically think negatively. Perhaps she’s sleeping or working or spending quality time with a friend?
We live in a world where instant commutation is just too convenient and it often gets us into trouble.
She will get back to you IF she wants to.
She will get back to you WHEN she can.
She will get back to you when it works for her.
If you haven’t heard from her in a few days, it’s safe to assume she doesn’t want to hear from you. Don’t weight in too much on this. People that want to communicate with someone, will make sure it happens.
No more than a day should pass between replies before you should start questioning her tardiness.
Are You Kicked To The Curb All The Time?
Elite Daily serves up a few top quality reasons why you’re getting rejected – Pay attention please!
She’s Got Someone Already!
If a girl has a boyfriend, crush, or anyone else she has a thing for, she’s not going to give you her undivided attention. When a girl knocks you down fast, it’s usually because she has her heart with another.
Whether that is realistic or not, is a completely different story.
When the doors to hooking up are closed, there’s good reason.
This type of rejection totally sucks but it’s worse if you don’t recognize it. Be wary, when a girl is hooked, she’s hooked and you can’t do anything about it. Move on fast for your own good please.
You Are Looking A Little Grungy
Not quite but most women have an image in their brain of how they want their man to look. If you don’t fit the bill, for whatever reason, you’re never ever in a zillion years going to get her. Let it go!
It’s not that you have to dress or act like a certain guy, that’s just too hard.
Be you and if you don’t fit, you don’t fit.
Accept that and move on. The faster, the better.
Direct Approach Could Scare Her Off
Some girls need to be eased into the dating scene. If you are too direct and to the point you might just scare her off. Many girls that are feeling out of their comfort zone, will just run the other way.
It’s really nothing to do with you.
They just don’t know how to respond so they run.
You are best to start off with a little harmless flirting and go from there. Warm her up and you’ll do much better. Trust me on this one please.
She Thinks You Are Just Jumping In For A Quick Pleasure
This is a fair thought. If you make a girl think like she’s another score on your wall, you need to have your butt kicked to the curb.
She’s never ever going to accept your moves unless she feels you are sincere, that she’s more than an object to you.
So when you are meeting up with a girl, make sure you pay attention to her and make her feel like you are interested in her, that she has value.
If you are slider by trade that approaches multiple women at a time, you’re on your own. Lie in your bed and be happy.
You’re Having Issues Making Her Feel Like The Only One
Women love to feel special, no doubt. So if you are talking with a girl and you can sense, see and feel she is losing interest in you, then you are about to be rejected.
Your job is to do your best to make certain she feels like your total attention is on her, nobody else.
When you learn the fine art of making a gal feel uniquely special, you WILL win. End of story my friend.
Bad Raps Never Help
When you have a bad reputation in general, you’ve automatically got a heck of a lot of obstacles to overcome.
The best route for you to deal with this situation is to completely change your social circle pronto.
Change the people you hang out and associate with. Go to different places and make sure you are seen with other people.
It does’t take long to smash this negative assumption when you take action.
Show that you have morals, values and principles and you’re good to go!
Always Pushing For The Quickie – The One Night Stand
If you make it loud and clear you just want to get laid, you’re going to get rejected every single time!
These are a couple of tactics to make it a little more doable…
*Be sure you make her feel special because your focus is on her.
*Find a way to make sure she’s curious about you.
*Open your mind and figure out whether she wants a night with your or not.
*Don’t drop the bomb about sleeping with her until after you have at least kissed her.
Bottom line is you need to develop the skills to flip a negative to a positive. Don’t ever focus on failure because you are better than that.
You can be successful. Focus and make it happen and you WILL do it.
What NOT To Do If You Want A Girl In College!
Here are a few experts proven tips and tricks to steer clear if you want to land that special gal in college.
Here are the top mistakes a guy makes when set on getting the girl.
This is the perfect opportunity of you to learn how to attract the cream of the crop women. Do you want to know the one move all guy mistakes can be traced to? Simply put, it’s not understanding the emotional steps a woman MUST go for before she is okay hopping into your bed!
Bad Move #1 – Creepy Move – Showing Way Too. Much Sexual Interest
If you show too much “in the sack” interest before you meet a girl, you will fail miserably. Girls want to feel appreciated and valued and if they think they are a short term sex object, you will never score.
Best Move – Create a want in the girl first. When you do this you will be able to advance to at least second base.
Bad Move #2 – Too Nice
Guys don’t get this one. If you’re too nice, you are going nowhere fast. If you automatically give her your credit card and bend to her every wish, you are screwing up wildly.
Everyone has limits and you should have yours too.
Be dominate but also show her you are playful. Let her know with actions you are boss but also playful. That’s exactly what a girl wants. She wants a man that knows what he wants but is willing to open the door to adventure and understanding to get it.
Bad Move #3 – Mr. Player
Are you kidding me?
Do you boys not learn?
If you think you can be a player and get the girl, you’re dumb!
The truth – If you skip the “get to know you phase” and go straight to the sex, you’re a player and you WILL lose.
Chances are you WILL experience…
Need I say more?
Bad Move #4 – No physical Contact
If you choose to stick in the “friend zone,” well you’re on your own. Point is if you are seriously interested in moving out of the friendship zone, you’ve got to show it.
Grab her hand.
Show her that you want to be more than friends if she feels the same for crying out loud.
Maybe you want to brush your and across her leg or shoulder?
Brush the hair off her face or maybe tell her she smells great. It really doesn’t matter but it is up to you to show her you want out of the friend zone.
Bad Move #5 – Sexual Tension Non-Existent
So many guys run down the misguided path that “being you” is going to make the women drop in front of you. That’s crap!
You need to understand the art of creating sexual tension.
How do you do this? Good question.
*Lean in to kiss her and don’t
*Sniff but don’t touch
*Set yourself to enter but don’t
Use your imagination here. Just make sure you understand the importance of sexual tension – Magical.
Bad Move #6 – Too Much Effort
If you are trying too hard, you will lose.
Here are a couple examples of a guy trying way too hard…
*Too many questions
*Too much money spent
*Too many compliments
*The “love” word way too early
*Too much energy on one focus
Holy crap, that’s just way too tiring.
Be open to letting her chase you. Often when you let a girl know she’s really not all that, she will come running.
Bad Move #7 – Didn’t Do Your Homework
If you aren’t prepared to talk to a girl, you are likely going to be in trouble. Women like guys that are ready, up for the challenge.
Have a cheat sheet if you need to. Make sure you’re comfy with general conversion before you meet her.
Make sure your funny lines are memories! Be sure to know how to handle general one-liners.
In other words, you’ve got to do your research homework if your’e going to be set to deal with the girls straight on.
Newsflash – Do this and you will impress.
Bad Move #8 – Too Factual
Seriously, a girl does NOT want a man that’s to straight up factual. Gone are the days, I’m afraid.
Unfortunately, many guys think smarter is better. It’s totally not.
Try hard not to be a know-it-all, that turns a girl off fast. Be intelligent but don’t be afraid to throw the ball in her court.
Bad Move #9 – Talking Yourself Down
Why do guys talk themselves down? It makes no sense to me!
FACT-When a guy openly admits he doesn’t deserve you off the hop, he’s in big trouble. That’s a ginormous sign of insecurity in my books.
Be positive and don’t gloat, but be fair and openly honest.
Holy crap. How can you expect to land any girl, let alone the girl of your dreams, if you don’t believe in yourself. Just doesn’t make any sense to me!
Getting a girlfriend in college might not be as easy as it seems.
Use these tips, tricks and professional proven tactics to help you reach your goal. No two situations are the same and the more information you have, the better.
Time for you to use what you’ve learned and make it happen.
Best of luck! You will do great!
How to get a girlfriend and why showing too much interest backfires
How To Get A Girlfriend And Why Showing Too Much Interest Backfires
There are men out there that know how to find a girlfriend anywhere, anytime, and there are guys out there that have no clue about how to get a girlfriend at all. In this article I want to show you the hidden problem most men face when trying to get a girlfriend.
Some men can go out day and night and in the end they’ll end up with nothing. Once in a while they manage to get a woman’s number and are so desperate about turning her into their girlfriend that they screw it up. For some men how to turn a date or a female friend into a girlfriend seems to be a mystery.
To be honest, it’s not often that a female friend wakes up the next day sweating, saying ‘Oh my gosh, I think I am in love with Brian’.
Most relationships follow a standard procedure…
The Default Procedure On How To Find A Girlfriend
They go from meeting to dating, and after a while of dating, they end up in a relationship or nothing at all.
The progression from friendship to relationship is very rare, but still not impossible.
Relationships that have friendship as their basis mostly occur among people that lack options in other people, for example with men and women that always hang around in the same circle of friends and rarely interact with ‘new’ people.
If a woman has options in men, she is usually not into a guy from her close friends circle and the chances she will become the girlfriend of one of them are very low but not zero.
The True Problem When Trying To Get A Girlfriend
The problem most men face, however, is what to do in order to turn a date into a girlfriend.
Truth is there is not much you need to do if you are a man who has options in other women.
But a man who has a lack of experience with women, and only gets a woman once in a while, of course doesn’t want to let this one get off the hook, so he wants to act. And he wants to act IMMEDIATELY.
Many men think if they don’t talk with a woman they are dating every day, then she could lose her interest, so they pursue her, call her and try to push her to become their girlfriend.
It is literally as if these guys are afraid that for every day this woman is not their girlfriend, she could find a guy that she will instantly fall in love with.
Well, this may of course happen…but you should know that these are less than one of 1,000 cases and in my entire experience I haven’t heard of this yet.
Moreover a woman is usually not going to run away from a guy if he is proceeding in a slow mode with her as it’s human nature to want what we don’t get so easily, so it’s not a bad thing if you take it slow and play it cool. But don’t get me wrong when I say ‘slow mode’.
I don’t mean that you shouldn’t make a move when dating a woman. You should move on to the physical stage absolutely, you just shouldn’t apply any pressure.
If you date a woman and you call her one time in three days saying ‘Hey, it was nice the other day. We should do that again soon.’ and then see her for a night or a dinner, then this is slow mode but still bringing you closer to your goal.
If you try to see her every day or call her every day, then you either push her so hard that she’ll feel uncomfortable and end it before committing to something she doesn’t like, or you will get into a relationship with her within days, which is very likely to have a bad ending.
Men and women that don’t have options in others are the ones who take it too far. And if you end up being in a relationship with a woman you have dated for less than a week, then you know nothing about her and the chances she will not be the one you were looking for are quite high.
This is also the reason why women don’t want to commit too soon. They first want to get to know you better before making a ‘relationship’ decision.
In general, if you are a mature and confident guy, then you could get girlfriends anywhere. The same applies to women.
But if one of these two communicates a picture to the other one that they should instantly be a couple, then it says the exact opposite – they’re a person that’s clingy, desperate and needy, all of which will be a huge negative.
How To Do It Right…
I have seen plenty of dating and relationship stories and I have been through many of them myself, so I can give you a decent picture on what the best way to handle this situation is.
If you have been on a date with a woman and you would like to turn her into your girlfriend, then take one step after another and build more proximity with every date and every phone call, but do not overwhelm her as you definitely don’t want to communicate that you are a dependent guy.
Time will go by, you two enjoy spending time together, and if you ask yourself when you’re going to enter a relationship with her, then you have probably already passed that stage.
This may sound redundant to you, but there are guys out there who think that going from dating to relationship needs a specific action. No, it’s about gliding over from one to another, so skip shameful questions or actions.
If you are dating a woman and you are not yet sure where it should go with her, then try to keep the level as it is and see her occasionally, but don’t try to show her any commitment yet. Remember, not committing is usually not a bad thing as long as you don’t mix it with showing no interest in her.
You definitely want to show interest in her, but you don’t want to give her the picture that you want her as girlfriend right now. Live with the attitude ‘We’ll see where this is going’ and if you realize a week later that you are really interested in making her your girlfriend, then just move one step further at a time.
Just always keep in mind that dating is no relationship, and if a man tries to commit a woman, many times she’ll feel under pressure and will dump the guy.
Do it slowly and enjoy yourself with her, then it will be her wanting to commit herself.
And if you don’t know how to find a girlfriend, what to do to get a woman in the first place, or how to turn a date into girlfriend, then sign up for my free email course and get these issues handled once and for all.
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